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Yay! Riri finally showing up again! I still think Karin has a shot. That’s gotta be rough to have been determined to go into acting and get so far but not be able to make the cut. But with her sense of taste, I bet she would make for a great sommelier. And I agree that Mei was on a roller coaster there with Karin, trying to let logic rule and not her hormones make her choices. Riri and Karin are still my top choices.

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joined Aug 4, 2018

Riri and Karin are still my top choices.

Ah, I see you are a person of culture as well.

joined Nov 22, 2019

Well, that conversation went better than expected. Just Mei making it clear she wants a committed relationship and she's not conformable with poly, with no shaming.

It seems people don't have a strong grasp of what poly is. A polyamerous relationship is one with 3 or more people who all love and care for eachother equally.

What you are describing is an open relationship, where in two people either date or are married, but each mutually agree to allow the other to engage in usually sexual (but sometimes romantic) relationships with others, while staying in the relationship.

Poly would imply that every girl Karin has a fling with would be expected to have an intamite connection with Mei as well.

Poly relationships can be very committed, but Karin seems to enjoy her quick flings as a way to blow off steam.

Not to say I expect this story to go in a poly direction. Quite the opposite, actually, as it is clear that none of Mei's potential love interests are particularly interested in eachother, and infact seem to get jealous quite easily.

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joined Jun 21, 2021

Well, that conversation went better than expected. Just Mei making it clear she wants a committed relationship and she's not conformable with poly, with no shaming.

It seems people don't have a strong grasp of what poly is. A polyamerous relationship is one with 3 or more people who all love and care for eachother equally.

What you are describing is an open relationship, where in two people either date or are married, but each mutually agree to allow the other to engage in usually sexual (but sometimes romantic) relationships with others, while staying in the relationship.

Poly would imply that every girl Karin has a fling with would be expected to have an intamite connection with Mei as well.

Poly relationships can be very committed, but Karin seems to enjoy her quick flings as a way to blow off steam.

Not to say I expect this story to go in a poly direction. Quite the opposite, actually, as it is clear that none of Mei's potential love interests are particularly interested in eachother, and infact seem to get jealous quite easily.

Now here's a pot calling the kettle black xD
What you're describing is only one way a polyamorous relationship can be. There are countless other ways and setups as well, and they most certainly do not require everyone to be romantically and/or sexually involved with all other participants. Keyword: metamour.

If you prefer everyone in your polycule to be involved with each other that's valid, but claiming that's the only correct way for a relationship to be polyamorous is reductive and frankly just straight up untrue.

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joined Oct 14, 2014

It's so cute that the girl who represents touch is the most innocent lmaoo I'm giggling and kicking my feet I wanna pick them up and throw them lol so cute

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joined Dec 10, 2022

This manga is such a blessing, god fucking bless Tamamushi, the absolute GOAT
Between this and Asumi-chan, my "God I wish that were me" meter is maxed out I cannot go back
Mei just doesn't give a shit she was about to confess to another girl, she has to ask Riri out she can't help it lol

It's so cute that the girl who represents touch is the most innocent lmaoo I'm giggling and kicking my feet I wanna pick them up and throw them lol so cute

IKR??? It's way too adorable I cannot take it
I still love Maria sensei and Kaoru senpai too but DAMNIT I DON'T KNOW WHICH ONE IS LOVE

Gay%20panic
joined Sep 11, 2020

aaaaaa it's been too long! I missed Riri. I never expected her to be the one we see the least, considering.... how she is

Just one of the many ways this is a deconstruction I guess. But also, show Riri more >:(

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joined Sep 10, 2022

aaaaaa it's been too long! I missed Riri. I never expected her to be the one we see the least, considering.... how she is

Just one of the many ways this is a deconstruction I guess. But also, show Riri more >:(

Sometimes being seen the least is a good thing: the author might be deliberately separating the "serious" romance from all the other shenanigans.

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joined Feb 3, 2021

Riri is just too cute! More Riri, more!

Sena
joined Jun 27, 2017

What a creepy event.

Ykn1
joined Dec 20, 2018

There we have it, conclusive proof that Riri is by far the best choice.

Prettygirlsmall
joined Jul 4, 2021

What a creepy event.

Yeah, that was kinda my thought as well. I assumed it was, like, an official photoshoot that Mei was just crashing, but it's actually some kind of weird thing where fans can pay to get up close and take private photos of her in a swimsuit? Feels super sketchy.

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joined Nov 13, 2022

There we have it, conclusive proof that Riri is by far the best choice.

Irrefutable and decisive indeed. I will not forgive Mei if she breaks Riri's heart. Riri is best girl.

But hmmmmm... I wonder what this feeling is, Riri... It is very mysterious.

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joined Aug 4, 2021

i think i still kinda favor the smell girl

joined Feb 24, 2023

Riri is definitely the best normal choice, I think her and the tomboy are the only ones who dont have like a very weird vibe when it comes to crushing on our heroine but she’s just kinda eh so I’m rooting for the touch starved lesbian

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joined Jan 2, 2022

Riri is so boring to me. This felt like a nothing chapter to me. I'm not feeling the chemistry either, it was just Mei checking out her boobs.

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joined Sep 11, 2020

I think at this point, my ranking is Touch > Sight > Smell > Taste > Hearing. Sorry to all the Karin-Senpai fans, out there. As a fellow Sapphic Slut, I SHOULD be all up ons, but for some reason I'm not feelin' her as much. FTR the top three are real close in my rankings lol, sight and smell could easily swap in the coming chapters

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joined Dec 10, 2022

I think at this point, my ranking is Touch > Sight > Smell > Taste > Hearing. Sorry to all the Karin-Senpai fans, out there. As a fellow Sapphic Slut, I SHOULD be all up ons, but for some reason I'm not feelin' her as much. FTR the top three are real close in my rankings lol, sight and smell could easily swap in the coming chapters

based Maria and Kaoru enjoyer

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joined Dec 23, 2014

I didn't think much of Riri earlier, but this chapter convinced me. Maria, Karin and Riri are my favs now. I really can't stand Kaoru for some reason.

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joined Jan 30, 2017

Since when did Riri have that ritz? omg

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joined Aug 6, 2015

What a creepy event.

Yeah, that was kinda my thought as well. I assumed it was, like, an official photoshoot that Mei was just crashing, but it's actually some kind of weird thing where fans can pay to get up close and take private photos of her in a swimsuit? Feels super sketchy.

I guess you could argue it's no different from real life where fans can meet and take photos of complainers who are dressed in revealing outfits. I'm pretty sure this probably is a normal thing in Japan and maybe we just see it as strange.

Jadina
joined Mar 23, 2024

Okay so I absolutely love Maria and I really hope that she’s the one that Mei ends up with. Her being kinda jaded and obviously having been hurt before, combined with her trying to keep her cool while she’s falling hopelessly in love with Mei and dealing with her simmering jealousy towards the other girls is just the perfect combination. I hope that she opens up about her past and the fact that she’s clearly gone through it and may be recovering from heartbreak. Like when she warns Mei to not give up on her honesty so she doesn’t turn into a “twisted old lady” like her in chapter 5, or when she reflects on failing to confess to someone in chapter 13 (okay there’s a slight chance this may be about Mei).

So, there’s her jealousy and possessiveness over Mei, which she tries to hide but eventually spills out to. It’s obviously laid out in chapter 5 when she sees Mei and Kaoru together and is repeated whenever she’s longingly watching from the sidelines. I think it reaches a climax in chapter 18—my girl’s world literally crumbles around her as Mei talks about kissing other girls. I wish she’d said something about??? Like just express your feelings girl damn. Even when they’re about to make out Maria can’t stop thinking about who kissed Mei before. And then when theyre actually kissing shes STILL THINKING ABOUT IT and is like do it to me like it was done to you???? Like that’s crazy. The fucking angst. The tension. My god I think this moment is what made me realize that I was ride or die for Mei and Maria. What’s crazier is that at the yakiniku place in chapter 23 she’s also like “kiss me like you did with Karin.” She just can’t stop thinking about all the girls that Mei has kissed and this is the first time she actually expresses that jealousy out loud. It honestly makes me sad that all she can think of when she’s about to kiss the woman she loves is how that woman is currently seeing other people. That sadness and angst is just so fucking good.

The last big thing is something that Maria thinks once and says out loud once, again. In chapter 5, during her fantasy about Mei, she tells Maria “stay with me forever.” Okay, so this is like their second time meeting and Maria is already fantasizing about them having sex and Mei expressing her desire to spend her life with her. Ignoring the fact that it’s probably not healthy for Maria to instantly think of this (and probably speaks to past heartbreak), that tinge of sadness hiding behind the surface is what makes her so compelling. In chapter 23, when Maria is drunk and truly honest to Mei, she tells her “don’t leave, stay with me forever.” I know I’m taking this way too seriously but god DAMN this broke my heart Maria is just so scared and so hurt and so in love and I want nothing more than for Mei to soothe her fears and for them to end up together forever. What more is there to say: Maria is an incredibly flawed person who can’t handle her desire and her pain in a healthy way, but this makes her an incredibly compelling character with more depth than the others. She’s got my heart and I realllyyyyyyyy really want her and Mei to end up together.

joined Apr 10, 2023

One of the things that's really compelling about this comic is how well the author set up the "dilemma" by making all six characters very plausibly attractive and desirable, barring random hangups an audience member might have about one or the other. Maria really IS a great character and I want to see her get the happiness she wants, but so are the other four suitors lol. They're gonna end up transforming Mei into a "monster girlfriend" like the guy from The 100 Girlfriends Who Really Really Really Really Really Love You is a "monster boyfriend" so everyone can be happy :P

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joined Dec 10, 2022

OH FUCK SHIT'S GOING DOWN NOW
I'm still rooting for Kaoru senpai

Also Mei is so real for her answer to that "what soothes you" question

Lilisionnach
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joined Feb 3, 2021

Ooooh boy. Things about to go down! And not to mention, we have a chance for some inter-harem relationships to build.

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