(sigh) Guys, you're both right, and you're both wrong, and you both need to listen to what the other is saying.
as i said you are lucky or you are not! eliminate any sources of stress! yeah that easy to say! but there always IS a source of stress. sell the house and move away? good for you you have enouth f*cking money to do that! my family wasn't rich enough to do that. and you'r "important factor" didn't really change a think. i can understand that doctors try to confort families this way but the fact is here it didn't change ANYTHING for all the member of my family who got cancer all is based on luc. actually my godfather is dying from cancer. doctors just lied to him telling him he's going to be fine because he don't want to depress him. and you know what? you f*cking "important factor" don't change a thing. in contraries he's getting more and more sicker by days. what you're "important factor" can do for that? stop telling bullshit to you're patients especialy when you know there isn't hope all is luck and that's all if you're lucky enough then you survive. if life screw you then that's it.
Listen, I get how you feel, but that isn't "it". Human beings are complicated, and yes, luck is a big factor in cancer diagnoses. I lost my mom at a younger age than I should've. I get that you're hurting right now. But you need to understand that yes, outlook -does- change the prognosis. The research that shows that optimistic outlooks help is -real- and there are probably chemical and biological foundations for why it helps. Yeah, you can do everything right and fight as hard as possible and still lose to the dice of fate. But an optimistic outlook and will to fight has also been -proven- to improve your chances. That's how everything in life is, even though people are shitty at accepting that. You can do everything right and lose. That doesn't mean doing your best is pointless.
As we all know, scientific studies and clinical experience count for shit, it is down to "luck". If only I learned that in college, unfortunately, Luck In Treating Cancer was not a registered subject in my time. You are wasting your breath, Nev, some people are just stupid, and that is all there is to it. When one of my friend's (also a doctor) father (also a doctor) got cancer, from which he eventually died, his son bought entire books on how to motivate cancer patients, and was frantic and desperate about it because his father was a natural-born pessimist. It was so important to him to somehow get his father to be optimistic, what a fool. If only there was a moron such as yourself present to tell him to stop wasting time, since his father will either have luck, or he will not. Anyway, I am done with this.
Edit: Also, while my example was indeed somewhat tied to my class, you do not need to be rich to at least minimise stress. Emotional stances can be, to a degree, controlled. I never did anything as extreme as getting rid of my property to avoid stress, I just took the old-fashioned approach of avoiding to think about things that cause me stress. But I mean, I only successfully combated cancer twice and have a degree in medicine, not like I would know anything about it. It was probably just luck. But I am again taking the bait after saying I would stop, so this time enough for real. Gods, do people like you irk me something terrible...
YOU need to step back and remind yourself that this person is dealing with the fact that someone they love is CURRENTLY in a deteriorating state. You're talking to someone who is in pain and is currently dealing with the helplessness and hopelessness of watching a loved one cope with a dangerous and debilitating disease that they can't do anything to help with. They're lashing out. Lashing back isn't going to help anything.
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