I really don't like this trope. What did you expect to happen?
"I told you to leave, now I'm wallowing in self pity and loathing".
I remember reading a sentence somewhere that went something like, 'The moment you made the decision, you lost all right to regret it'. If she really wanted to distance herself, then she should bury all that pain and hesitation deep enough that it never shows up in her actions or on her face.