Pyoro posted:
Got to have sex or else they might leave you? Mmm thats some good relationship advice right there.
Japanese social norms. If the husband cheats it's because the wife didn't put out enough. Clearly this translates into yuri relationships as well.
Partially this. Male satisfaction is key in most cultures around the world with more cultures more adamant patriarchal tradition this is magnified. Women are to:
- Be An Outlet For Male Sexual Pleasure (His Satisfaction)
- Assure Him Of His Masculinity (His Validation)
- Endure His Family Line Continues And Have Children He Wants (His Continuation)
- Take Care Of Him, Children, and Household Necessities (His Relaxation)
I mean there's little more than sex, submission, and servitude in the traditional role of women in society. If a relationship fails, it's generally assumed to be the failure of the woman:
- He left you for a younger and/or prettier woman? She must've not cared about her appearance.
- He cheated on you with another woman? She must've not been sexually available or satisfying.
- He abused and beat you? She must've overstepped "her place", antagonized him in some way.
- He left you because you couldn't conceive? She must've been infertile, never him, just her.
It's always her fault, never his. Because patriarchy works like that. Men are infallible compared to women.
Now I don't want to turn this into into some great flame war or anything, but generally aren't men who cheat, abuse or leave for stupid reasons considered scum? Whenever I see things about that, the woman is never the one blamed, because everyone recognises that the man was in the wrong.
It's why I think, at least when it comes to the Western World, that the patriarchy is largely a myth. I see a lot of things claiming something but don't see the evidence to back it up. It's also when I see things like male suicide rates compared to female suicide rates (80% of suicides are men) courts clearly favouring female parents in custody cases, men having to serve longer prison sentences for the same crime. So the idea of the patriarchy seems a little flimsy (Especially when I live in a country with a Queen and female Prime Minister!)
But again, I don't want to start a flame war, and this isn't really the place to be having this sort of discussion, so I'll leave it here.