Hm, on the topic of safe sex between girls, this is something I've been thinking about for a while. In real life, the only time any girl has ever brought up safety has been regarding condoms on toys being used by multiple people without washing inbetween. I've genuinely neither met nor slept with a single girl that's ever used (or asked to use) dental dams, gloves, or cots.
And yet, it seems every other girl I speak to online is insistent that these should be used like all the time.
Which leads me to consider a couple different conclusions. Either online lesbian/bi/etc forums just have a large oversampling of girls that are very very pro-safe sex, or I've just so happened to never meet one IRL despite there being so many around, or people like to pretend to be super safe and responsible online but actually don't care when it comes down to it IRL.
It's just really REALLY hard to use dental dams, finger condoms, etc.
I totally support safe sex practices and advocate for everyone to have safe sex every time. But I can't sit here and act like I always have safe sex and like I haven't had terrible, terrible, sensationless sex when using dental dams and the like.
I actually had this discussion with some of my WSW friends because I felt like I was the only one risking my sexual health and...it's actually something every WSW I know has a problem with. The only people I know who have "safe sex" are those who use toys and honestly they don't use condoms if they aren't using toys.
I've managed to get by unscathed by asking about STIs before sex (highly awkward and uncomfortable but if I don't get an immediate answer or something is off I don't drop my pants; I've also found that most people are genuinely honest and if they don't know their status, they wil say so) and by getting tested before and after a different partner.
Of course it's always better to have safe sex every time, but reality seldom reflects what 'should' be.