To me this seems like a dark fantasy scenario, not a representation of BDSM. It depicts overcoming the shame and stigma that keep you from recognizing, speaking up about, or acting on your sadism through being seduced by a close friend you’re attract to into giving her pain. To me it reads like a classic fantasy of repression—like, “what would happen if I just let myself explode and expose this hidden part of me to someone who would encourage or welcome it.” It’s even got the, “I couldn’t help myself” feature, too, that’s supposed to sort of take away your responsibility, abstract yourself from the guilt so you can process the desire.
I find it appealing on that level, and frankly kind of hot, though I am still put off by the lack of consent, invitation, discussion, etc. that are needed to safely and healthily explore these spaces. While the manga treats on some level some of the headspaces associated with BDSM, specifically just with sadism and masochism, it does not at all represent the actual practice or approach to it. Which is fine, because this work isn’t about communicating, discussing, and respecting boundaries in a safe and healthy relationship—it’s about desires bursting the dam of repression, and there’s room for that.
However, given how misunderstood BDSM is, and how much this aligns with many peoples’ negative stereotypes and imaginings of what scenes or relationships look like—frankly, assault and abuse—I think giving it the BDSM tag on this site is deeply irresponsible.
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