ForumIt's Tough Being Neeko discussion

70420323_p4_master1200-min
joined Dec 28, 2018

Welp, i came for yuri found a kawaii waifu, but still not yuri.

Erika
joined Dec 16, 2014

this is too real.

Rsz_1screenshot_7
joined Aug 23, 2015

the salt the mum had

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joined Mar 14, 2016

...depicting the symptoms is just one part of understanding the topic, while actually showing us how to overcome them is a whole other beast, and that's where I have no faith in the author's ability or, indeed, willingness to execute. I have already expressed in this thread my discomfort at the apparent mixed messaging of this manga, where we are seemingly expected to root for Neeko on one page, but to point our fingers and to laugh at her illness on the other. That is what makes me think the story will never reach a satisfying conclusion.

Arguably, as I've taken a day or two to think it over, that may be the point of this series. Depicting Neeko's relapses and outbursts with such genuine emotion and accuracy means the author definitely has a degree of familiarity. Whether it's off hand knowledge from an acquaintence who was actually willing to share their experience, or they have personal experience with the subject is both unknown and unnecessary. What matters is that I have full confidence that Neeko's plight is genuine.

That said, there is a dilemma inherent to depicting severe social anxiety so accurately.

On one hand, Neeko is a fictional character in a fictional setting that we emphasize with and we want to see improve and get better. On the other, anyone experiencing the same things Neeko is knows that if it were that easy to solve they probably would have done it by now, and if she were to quickly and suddenly get better out of nowhere it would be disrespectful to the people who are actually suffering.

There's a delicate balance and the author is really towing that line. The times where Neeko's dysfunction is treated like a "joke" doesn't actually feel disrespectful to me, at least, not totally. It's just accurate to how most people are treated. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, it's supposed to. Neeko is misunderstood and that's fine. The author is making a point that this is Neeko's life and this is what people feel.

My personal issue, and I hate taking about myself and do it rarely online, I'm only using myself as an example, is that Neeko is too empathetic to me. Her life almost feels like I'm reading a personal biography (with some notable exceptions, of course. I'm not a cute anime girl living in Japan, for one.)

While I'm glad a peice of media exists that helps others understand what people like me are going through, it's really hard to continue reading and remind myself of my own issues constantly.

Utenaanthy01
joined Aug 4, 2018

Neeko's mom comes across as genuinely wanting to push her daughter forward without really understanding how she feels. like, she does what she can for Neeko to "progress" on the life track she doesn't question because that's what she and all her peers believe you're just supposed to do, it's normal and there's no reason to think about it.

Well, yeah. Moms trying to get their twenty-something daughters married asap (setting up omiai and such) is like the oldest trope in the book. Truth in fiction, too.

It's a common source of angst in yuri stories, where the lesbian daughter isn't interested in men but 1) she hasn't come out to her parents yet, or 2) she has come out to them -- but they just got angry and redoubled their efforts to get her a proper husband. I don't think it's Neeko's case, though, as she has shown some interest in males (and little attraction to females).

Honestly, it's kind of unrealistic that her mother has waited until now to introduce her to some marriage candidates. In a less comedic setting, the pressure on Neeko to marry someone and give grandchildren to her mother would have been there, I suspect, since long ago.

(y)
joined Jan 9, 2017

Aranged dates... Fking ell..

(y)
joined Jan 9, 2017

Neeko's mom comes across as genuinely wanting to push her daughter forward without really understanding how she feels. like, she does what she can for Neeko to "progress" on the life track she doesn't question because that's what she and all her peers believe you're just supposed to do, it's normal and there's no reason to think about it.

Well, yeah. Moms trying to get their twenty-something daughters married asap (setting up omiai and such) is like the oldest trope in the book. Truth in fiction, too.

It's a common source of angst in yuri stories, where the lesbian daughter isn't interested in men but 1) she hasn't come out to her parents yet, or 2) she has come out to them -- but they just got angry and redoubled their efforts to get her a proper husband. I don't think it's Neeko's case, though, as she has shown some interest in males (and little attraction to females).

Honestly, it's kind of unrealistic that her mother has waited until now to introduce her to some marriage candidates. In a less comedic setting, the pressure on Neeko to marry someone and give grandchildren to her mother would have been there, I suspect, since long ago.

But its the dad who sat this one up

joined Sep 28, 2015

lol false alarm everyone.

Utenaanthy01
joined Aug 4, 2018

But it's the dad who set this one up.

Yeah... and now that we know who "Sousuke" is, it makes sense.

The author really trolled us. I was absolutely sure some guy was going to come for Neeko... someone who was manly, assertive, good-looking, with a great job, and, generally speaking, the perfect hubby candidate. Then Neeko would have to fight an uphill battle to reject him!

Actually, I'm glad it didn't turn out like that. Whew!

TifalovesAerith
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joined May 7, 2017

got baited by the cover for some reason, I dunno why

Captureybyhb_x213
joined Mar 16, 2018

Well, you gotta hand it to Neeko, even in the midst of her despair, she still shows off a great camel toe.

Also, now it's Neeko and Neko, this could become a buddy comedy or a crime show, or both.

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joined May 24, 2014

Well looks like neko will deal with a puss!

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joined May 15, 2014

oh would you look at that, she is now scared of her mom. wonder why....

joined Apr 30, 2014

Wow, that cat must really not like her mom.

Star%20pancakes
joined Oct 20, 2017

The cat might help her get a little better. (?)

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