Sex is literally the most special, intimate thing you can do with someone. It seems like fantasy to pretend that it can be equated to something as mundane as flipping burgers, and I say this as a former chaturbate model. I know that's not exactly the same kind of sex work, but even when it was my job to masturbate for people I absolutely got off on it. And that was despite hating doing it for work, being told what to do by entitled freeloaders and listening to gross sexist men, etc. I mean, this very story reinforces this fact fully: the entire relationship is formed between a sex worker and a client entirely while she's on the job. And yet it would be bigoted for the CEO to not want to date a sex worker who falls in love with the people she's having sex with, if she kept doing it?
And even if you really did manage to not have any feelings about having sex whatsoever, I'd expect that it would vastly decrease the specialness of doing it with your partner as well. I can't imagine wanting to do sex work while in a relationship. There's a point, I think, where excessive sex-positivity can harm your own enjoyment of sex. If you start thinking of sex as an entirely physical affair, that it's fine to just do it as casually as you want because it feels good so why not, you devalue what it really means emotionally, and in doing so decrease the degree of intimacy obtained from doing it with a partner. Maybe this doesn't apply to everyone, each person is their own individual, but that's exactly why you can't coat the whole world with this universal standard that everyone must be okay with themselves/their partners having casual sex inside a relationship while calling people bigots for disagreeing.
Lastly, supposing everything I just said was wrong and you were 100% right, even then, saying that having insecurities = being bigoted is lunacy. People are allowed to have insecurities, and to try to find a partner with boundaries that are compatible with theirs.
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