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joined Jul 29, 2017

I love how polarized people are lol. You can't point out the mistakes a character made or the stupid decisions they made without someone else jumping at your neck for "justifying" the other one's actions

PSA: Saying how bad Nanase was as a girlfriend does not mean you're justifying Yuni's cheating
Saying how stupid Yuni is does not mean you're defending Nanase
Not everything is black and white in life, and especially not in this story lmao

Keep that stuff up and you’re going to put the Yuri Manga Fictional Character Moral Tribunal out of work, and then where would we be?

E. Vigée Le Brun
joined Jun 8, 2021

I think of tags' purposes either as warning folks away who don't want that type of content -

the purpose of the tags on this site in this regard is to call all those who hate the tag into the comment section to tell how bad it is and how bad everyone is for reading.

It's astounding how many people have rushed to this thread & worked hard to prove you right.

And that's all I had to say. This story sucks, but let see to what disapointing end this will take us. Till there, I'm out.

He said, and then wrote another huge wall of tl;dr... XD

Lol at tl;dr but actually you are quite correct. I suspect most of us who look at the comments, when we come upon one of his messages, we think 'oh yawn another tirade on morals and cheating' and we jump to the next one without reading it.

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joined Feb 10, 2022

Nothing that a 3some can fix

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joined Feb 16, 2016

I think Fuuko's quite slay

wisteriagirl
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joined May 31, 2020

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

Huh? it was clear as day NTR since chapter 1, what do you mean?

for real like? the title is literally "my girlfriend is not here today" and she cheats right off the bat, what did people think they were gonna get?

but anyway, this is actually pretty entertaining to me. it's quite clear that none of them are in the right so i'm just enjoying the shit show lmfao

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E. Vigée Le Brun
joined Jun 8, 2021

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

Huh? it was clear as day NTR since chapter 1, what do you mean?

for real like? the title is literally "my girlfriend is not here today" and she cheats right off the bat, what did people think they were gonna get?

Welllllll.... there is a difference between cheating and ntr... but yeah this is a series where it was evident that the cheating would lead to ntr sooner or later.

https://dynasty-scans.com/chapters/my_girlfriends_not_here_today_ch17#21
https://dynasty-scans.com/chapters/my_girlfriends_not_here_today_ch17#22
https://dynasty-scans.com/chapters/my_girlfriends_not_here_today_ch17#25

These 3 pages leave no room for disbelief. You're placed in Nanase's pov and you have to watch your girlfriend mock and humiliate you with cruel worlds while another person kisses, fondles and gropes her. We're now in ntr up to our ears.

joined Mar 18, 2023

Anyone who hasn't yet, do read all the chapters, because otherwise 17 will seem utterly insane, instead of just crazy and Nanase having a brain seizure from overstimulation.

Right now chapters 10 and 11 aren't here, and those have a bunch of context to understand Fuuko and Yuni bit better.

context wont fix bad writing though?

This is pretty trashy but it's not particularly bad written. The pacing is good, the characters are consistent in their behavior, the tone is also pretty consistent in its silliness.

It's silly and trashy and the characters' behavior and reactions aren't realistic but fiction doesn't have to mirror real-life so this isn't a problem.

it isnt realism that i was regarding to though?

this stories problem in my opinion is that its characters lack believable motives due to a lack of elaboration making their actions make no sense and causes the narrative to become less than convincing as a plausible conflict.

Utenaanthy01
joined Aug 4, 2018

Somehow a new school of thought has developed lately—that claims that if you start dating someone then that person belongs to you and any display of attraction towards someone else is an unforgivable sin. I dunno how to call it, the dumb ass school? In opposition to the common sense school that says that if you want to keep somebody at your side your whole life then you'll have to keep working at it your whole life.

Words of gold.

Nanase is the poster girl of taking your lover for granted.

And the story shows us what are the costly consequences of this mistake.

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joined Feb 10, 2022

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

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joined Jan 17, 2021

Nothing that a 3some can fix

They're all pretty. I can understand now the struggle of my grandma when she watch her telenovelas.

joined Mar 18, 2023

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

am i going insane or has some people not realized that there is a difference between cheating and ntr?

how has the fact that they exist as distinct words not given them a clue of this great profound truth at all?

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joined Aug 12, 2018

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

am i going insane or has some people not realized that there is a difference between cheating and ntr?

how has the fact that they exist as distinct words not given them a clue of this great profound truth at all?

I understand there is a difference, but from the very beginning it wasn't just cheating. Straight from chapter 1, Fuuko was trying to steal Nanase's girlfriend, and that's literally the basis of netorare

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joined Oct 14, 2014

Fighting for someone who is not worth it and doesn't value you as much as you value them is not a sign of strenght or devotion and, let alone love. Is a sign of low self-steem, because someone who value themselves would not waste their energies on someone who dosen't deserve it.

Stop posting then lol I thought you disliked this manga. You've gotten your point across, which means you can safely blacklist it and forget it ever existed

Sayaka_ava
joined Nov 23, 2014

Also I dont care much about cheating, never thought it was that big of a deal personnally so... shrug

Even when it is happening right in front of you? I mean not to knock on anyone's kink of course!

Words of gold.

Nanase is the poster girl of taking your lover for granted.

And the story shows us what are the costly consequences of this mistake.

Jesus Christ some of you talk about this teenage love drama like we are dealing with earth shattering events here. xD

Ten years down the line these three -- Nanase playing her ball games or whatever, Fuuko scoring with some hot sugar mama, Yuni in a trash heap somewhere -- look back and think to themselves, "that sure happened in high school huh? Oh well"

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joined Mar 18, 2023

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

am i going insane or has some people not realized that there is a difference between cheating and ntr?

how has the fact that they exist as distinct words not given them a clue of this great profound truth at all?

I understand there is a difference, but from the very beginning it wasn't just cheating. Straight from chapter 1, Fuuko was trying to steal Nanase's girlfriend, and that's literally the basis of netorare

thats still just cheating though,even if it was leaning into becoming ntr,it hadnt become so until this most recent chapter.

by the way the basis of ntr is about the baby bird finding out about the bull taking something precious from them and being too weak and powerless to stop it.the bulls intentions doesnt matter at all nor does the precious thing stolen since the basis of ntr is all about the baby birds pain and anguish at having lost something.

joined May 3, 2014

I love how polarized people are lol. You can't point out the mistakes a character made or the stupid decisions they made without someone else jumping at your neck for "justifying" the other one's actions

PSA: Saying how bad Nanase was as a girlfriend does not mean you're justifying Yuni's cheating
Saying how stupid Yuni is does not mean you're defending Nanase
Not everything is black and white in life, and especially not in this story lmao

you lot EXAGERATE Nanase fault here tho >.> like this crap of blaming Nanase for something like “neglect” becaus ONLY YUNI see it as neglect! in an healty relationship you discus the issue and fix it by compromising or changing or ANYTHING! then if all fails Yuni is in the rights to break up due to difference in relationship priorities such as Nanase puting the relationship AND club activities! you all acting as if the neglect was SO SEVEAR but I literaly fail to see how that is the case and forget me but Yuni definition of neglect is twisted in an narcisistic way, it’s like people think every relationship doesn’t have an form of “neglect” but since the ADULTS reach an understanding that they can’t spend to much time together who is to say that is “neglect”!!! this is the core issue in this depiction of relationship!

Yuni NEVER really tryed to do the right thing but chose cheating as the most stupid way to fix something that will fail the moment they are caught cheating, PUTING more wffort in cheating that fixing the damn relationship! and what is Nanase soo called “sin”? oh She thinks club ativities and her lover to be BOTH precious!!! like WHAT EVEY adult does!!!

I fell this will end with Nanase being the bloody cock in the relationship OR forgiving the disgusting Yuni right there and there as an werid form for “redemption”

I hope the ending will be Nanase breaking up and move on, or it will end in the most disgusting way and leave me with shit taste in my mouth :/

joined May 3, 2014

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

Huh? it was clear as day NTR since chapter 1, what do you mean?

for real like? the title is literally "my girlfriend is not here today" and she cheats right off the bat, what did people think they were gonna get?

but anyway, this is actually pretty entertaining to me. it's quite clear that none of them are in the right so i'm just enjoying the shit show lmfao

what in green earth make you think EVERY cheat story is NTR?? lol what a wierd hung up on the fact people didn’t expect NTR since I DID read cheating story but only a HANDFULL of them were NTR

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joined Jul 22, 2022

page 24 - 25 is insane omg

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joined Jan 11, 2014

Damn I could be taking them a bit more seriously if everyone's bodies didn't look sculpted for the male gaze. Yuni being a lil piece of shit, as she should. Terrified to see what this cumulates into now that everything is revealed. I'm still curious what's driving Fuuko's whole mentality. What does she get out of NTRing these two.

Yuu
joined Mar 28, 2015

botmj posted:

Damn I could be taking them a bit more seriously if everyone's bodies didn't look sculpted for the male gaze. Yuni being a lil piece of shit, as she should. Terrified to see what this cumulates into now that everything is revealed. I'm still curious what's driving Fuuko's whole mentality. What does she get out of NTRing these two.

What's "sculpted for the male gaze" doing here? Women aren't allowed to appreciate their body? When girls are drawn for girls, they should be drawn as plain as possible? So as to avoid those icky male gazes?

The only thing I have a bit of gripe about is that these three have huge boobs, which is a bit unrealistic for 3 Japanese high school girls.

Other than that, they're totally sculpted for anyone who appreciates the female body.

joined Feb 10, 2022

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

am i going insane or has some people not realized that there is a difference between cheating and ntr?

how has the fact that they exist as distinct words not given them a clue of this great profound truth at all?

I DO know what they are. I'm sure you're confused

joined Mar 18, 2023

the show has shown its true colors,this is ntr trash plain and simple.

I'm sure you were not even skimming this manga

am i going insane or has some people not realized that there is a difference between cheating and ntr?

how has the fact that they exist as distinct words not given them a clue of this great profound truth at all?

I DO know what they are. I'm sure you're confused

if you know what they are then what the hell was the point of your first response?

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joined Jul 29, 2017

Ah yes, the great definitional “cheating vs ntr” philosophical debate—makes the old “yuri vs shojou ai” maunderings sound like the Academy of Athens.

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joined Feb 3, 2023

Ah yes, the great definitional “cheating vs ntr” philosophical debate—makes the old “yuri vs shojou ai” maunderings sound like the Academy of Athens.

I mean... The difference is clear, cheating is cheating in general, netorare is a specific dynamic that doesn't even need to include cheating, it just has to have the loved person being "taken away" by someone else and focus on the suffering or humiliation.

Examples: A is dating B, B cheats on A with C and thats it (just regular cheating)

A is dating B, C steps in to seduce B, B falls in love with C, A finds out, A suffers (netorare)

A has a crush on B for a long time, C starts something with B, A finds out and is heartbroken (netorare but with no cheating)

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Yuu
joined Mar 28, 2015

Also, what I noticed is that the main gripe people have about Yuni is that she never tried to communicate her "loneliness" to Nanase. And so, it's also her fault if she's been neglected. Commnunication, blah, blah blah...

But people are judging this from a western point of view, where people are used to be told to lay things on the table and discuss the issues.

The way Japanese people interact is different and one of the things I noticed is that they dislike direct confrontation, or criticizing others directly. There's this whole cultural thing about "reading the room" or "disturbing the harmony" that prevents direct communication and expects people to take hints on what others are thinking and avoid making a fuss or putting others in a difficult position. Not to say that some Japanese people don't do it, but it's considered rude.

The whole situation stems from the fact Nanase's unable to read and respond to Yuni's emotions and needs, and for that reason, their relationship's falling apart. And the fact Yuni doesn't confront her is because IT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU DO EASILY IN THEIR CULTURE. There needs to be a real crisis for them to speak their mind, like in the latest chapter. Yuni's at the end of her rope. She loves Nanase, but she finds in Fuuko everything she lacking in her own relationship and she's at an impasse.

On the other hand, Fuuko's really good at it. She can read Yuni and Nanase easily. She can navigate the whole thing without a hitch, so she's able to poke holes in the relationship easily.

Anyway, my point is, trying to judge these characters' behavior from a western point of view is completely different than how Japanese readers perceive it. Even they think "cheating is bad" of course, but to them, the whole situation doesn't seem as implausible or as "easily solved" as some readers here seem to think.

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