? Nina gave her sincere compliments, took her to see a movie she wanted to see, had done enough research to know stores they could go to if Mao was interested in looking for something particular, and had made reservations for dinner. Some of that stuff is standard, but I would think the research for what movie she wants at minimum makes it specific to Mao. Not to mention, there was a pretty clear implication that Nina was going to buy the necklace Mao liked and give it to her later.
I kind of agree that it would be better if Mao realized it on her own, but I disagree with the Utena comparison. Utena is immediately a player on the field by getting to be Anthy's fiancee. Nina is trying to prove she's better than the guy because from Mao's point of view Nina is not an option at all. Nina wants a shot, and this is her attempting to get a shot.
They are obviously not a 1:1 comparision, the setting is not even the same and I am aware.
I am talking about how trying to do the best for someone sometimes you overlook what that someone's needs.
In fact your own comment confirms what I mean. “because from Mao's point of view Nina is not an option at all. Nina wants a shot, and this is her attempting to get a shot.” and in my comment I said this is not what Mao needs now. I don’t like that Nina is trying to win againts Mr. Nice Guy first for her desire to be seen as an option than talking with Mao about this whole thing, anyone can fall for a useless dude but Nina also ask herself why Mao would date someone like that so I assume she suspects something is going on with Mao. You can’t always make people realise they are dating a piece of shit, but you still can talk about worries and such, but Nina is first trying to be seen as a better candidate. And that is also what I mean with the date, I never said anything about Nina being inconsiderate, about the compliments, or about the movie, etc. I said that it feels superficial because it was more about the places that them sharing anything outside of that. With standar I mean that people spect something more fancy (the necklace, movie, dinner and cake) for a date because the idea for it is to do something you don’t every day, but again I was expecting them to chat about them, not even about depresing topics like Mr. Nice Guy, just sharing.
Sorry for not being concise and all over the place, eng is hard
Correct me if I'm wrong, but reading your comment it feels like you're approaching it from the assumption that Mao would consider dating Nina if she just talked it out with her. I think Mao is probably straight, and Nina taking Mao out on a date is not just about her being better than the guy, but also to be like, "hey have you considered girls?" In which case doing date-like activities are there for the reason of "anything you could do with a guy, you can do with me, and I'm better".
I agree with you that it's not necessarily what Mao needs, but Nina doesn't know that and she's working with a severe handicap. She's gotta start somewhere.