Oh no

Some people here sure say some crazy stuff.
You don't do this to a person you want to reconcile with, you do this if you want to burn bridges.

At least for Jing Xiu, this isn't in her nature. It's her sister's nature and Jing Xiu just succumbed to it in a weak moment.

Yes. A weak moment she has because she has been emotionally broken by Youyan, who burned away years of their relationship out of selfishness.

Jing Xiu doesn't know about Youyan's time travel. Doesn't know that her life became a mess for three years, before she killed herself, over what she's done. From her perspective, her ex just came back one day and tried to mend their relationship out of nowhere with flowers and love letters. There is nothing concrete, no commitment in what Youyan has offered.

You don't do this to a person you want to reconcile with, you do this if you want to burn bridges.

If this does anything to their reconciliation, puts even a dent in the bridge between them, then Youyan doesn't deserve the chance she's being given. Because she should know exactly that she herself, that her doing this exact kind of thing, are the reasons why Jing Xiu is emotionally weak, constantly worried, and so lacking in self-love that she'd marry someone she doesn't love in another timeline.

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Two wrongs don't make a right. Being hurtful on purpose to "get even" is not okay

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Forgiveness is earned, not owed. Jing Xiu could ask something utterly humiliating from Youyan and would still be in her right. Instead, she asks of her to feel what Jing Xiu herself felt years before ; although, where Jing Xiu had done nothing wrong except to pick a bad partner, Youyan will know exactly what she has done to deserve being treated like that.

If Youyan can't or doesn't want to go through something that is still less painful than what she inflicted upon Jing Xiu to earn her forgiveness, she can just walk away. She has no right to complain.

Mind you, I don't necessarily think it is healthy for Jing Xiu, either. If she trusted Youyan, if she knew why her ex has come back, she wouldn't stoop to such low games, which will only hurt them both. Still, she has both the right and understandable reasons to ask Youyan to bear with this.

Jing Xiu could ask something utterly humiliating from Youyan and would still be in her right. Instead, she asks of her to feel what Jing Xiu herself felt years before ;

oooof.
I feel this in my bones.
thanks for writing that, Bielna

The novel's title is translated as, My Feelings Can Wait.

It's gonna be long road for Youyan to rebuild all the trust and goodwill that she burned thru, and from what I take from that title, and her actions so far, she's ready for that

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Forgiveness is earned, not owed.

Wrong. Forgiveness isn't earned, but trust is. Never confuse them.

Forgiveness is earned, not owed.

Wrong. Forgiveness isn't earned, but trust is. Never confuse them.

Yeah, forgiveness is given. It's the choice of the person giving it.

I just want to point out that they aren't sisters: Jing Xiu and Tao Xingruo.