Well that is if the author is someone who has had experience being the abuser and is made self-aware about it ...
... Surely they can just interview other people? Or how is abuse studied by science community?
looks like a win-win
It's not. It fucking isn't. The abuse survivor just give up because she feels powerless or she's not ready to fight*. There's no win-win in abusive relationship, it's either zero-sum (abuser got what they wanted) or lose-lose (one or more end up in grave or was seriously hurt, and the other, if exist, end up behind bars).
*Abuse hotline/help center saw this kind of cases frequently, they help victims by giving them the help the victims asked for (like, in heterosexual relationship's case, birth control medications), a place to seek help (abusers tend to isolate victims from their social graph because that makes victims feel powerless and nowhere to go to seek help) and not being a judgemental ass.
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