I'm finding the omission of the event personally relevant, as I've had sex while dissociative and it's a surprisingly accurate rendition of finding out what you did when you weren't, um, "in the room". At least, if I extrapolate to violent urges being acted out. (My issues skew differently.) Gunj has been resonating with me the whole time, and I think this sheds some light on why.
That is exactly why the sex scene was cut, I think.
Gunj even says that she 'blacked out', and it's shown by her "waking up" and not knowing what had happened or where Petai had gone, and this is reinforced by her having a therapist she hasn't seen in a while.
It's a narrative element so that the reader is left in the same circumstance of knowing that harm was done but not knowing any of the details.
It very much seems as though Ms Gunj is dissociative, and that in her dissociative states she becomes sexually aggressive, violent, and cruel.
In this instance, she wilfully disregarded Petai's repeated clear concerns and outright "No!".
Anyone arguing that what was depicted was not abuse (in the form of violent sexual assault) is not paying any attention to the story.
Gunj herself even admits as much.
Whether Gunj was personally conscious or not, she bears responsibility for putting herself in that position and not adequately protecting Petai by explaining beforehand.
As others have said, even outside of the dissociation, this is why genuine BDSM involves clear communication, understood boundaries, and the use of safewords/outs for if it becomes too much.
It is very easy for "rough play" to turn into abuse, and that is what it is when another involved party does not consent.
I honestly wasn't quite expecting this story to suddenly involve dissociation, nor to head towards what seems to be a discussion of sorts regarding how BDSM can go wrong & how someone deals with being guilty of abusive behaviour.
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