I feel sad for her mom, sometimes life doesn't treat you well, and you learn to survive in a harmful and limiting way, still those decisions helped you to live and you assume, you need to believe they were the right choice.

what a succinct dose of misery. All the generational trauma, the alienation, all the systemic violence packaged into a four page epilogue of the original dose of reality.

I want to be sympathetic, but this just reminds me too much of my own mom and my own family. She constantly says she just wants me to be happy, but really she wants me to be happy in a way that she can accept. The amount of queerphobic, homophobic, transphobic, shit my family will say so casually and expect me to not to take it personally because they love me and want the best for me makes the entire statement null.

Oh why...why did I have to read this to start off my morning...as if the main story wasn't sad enough now they follow it on with this?! Brb gonna message my mum.

I want to be sympathetic, but this just reminds me too much of my own mom and my own family. She constantly says she just wants me to be happy, but really she wants me to be happy in a way that she can accept. The amount of queerphobic, homophobic, transphobic, shit my family will say so casually and expect me to not to take it personally because they love me and want the best for me makes the entire statement null.

Feel this heavy. It’s really hard when it’s your reality but it felt kinda nice to relate with this experience.

I feel sad for her mom, sometimes life doesn't treat you well, and you learn to survive in a harmful and limiting way, still those decisions helped you to live and you assume, you need to believe they were the right choice.

I understand how awful it feels to be between a rock and a hard place, but pressuring her own daughter to apologize when she did nothing wrong is pretty... meh

I want to be sympathetic, but this just reminds me too much of my own mom and my own family. She constantly says she just wants me to be happy, but really she wants me to be happy in a way that she can accept. The amount of queerphobic, homophobic, transphobic, shit my family will say so casually and expect me to not to take it personally because they love me and want the best for me makes the entire statement null.

They would literally praise that one orange while asking "why can't we talk and be friends even if we have different view on things?" Like bish you wanted people like me dead why can't we talk you fxxxing tell me?

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I'm going to be honest, I was being sympathetic to the mother UNTIL she forced that apology, and Miyuki was right the whole funeral just became an excuse to lambast her and for what? Wanting to have a better life for herself? Having a dream?

This hit way to close to home, my own family is like this in a way, fantastic work.

I am lucky not to have a family like this.

I think the sympathy I feel here isn't like "she's trying the best". It's "you are the cause of your own pain and it's sad that you are too far gone to see it". Almost like the feeling I got when I had to lay mouse traps one time, where I wished coexisting was possible, but it's just not. Except worse because she has a choice in her actions, she just doesn't realize it anymore.

Except worse because she has a choice in her actions, she just doesn't realize it anymore.

Well, her daughter may choose to live in big cities alone, but she herself, living under this constant repression for tens of years, probably doesn't find it possible to find another way for herself other than continue to live with "family". And if she didn't force her daughter to apologize, or even maybe try to defend her daughter, she might have to live her life even harder since then.

I can't say I agree with her decision, but I can see how that decision may be made.

Except worse because she has a choice in her actions, she just doesn't realize it anymore.

Well, her daughter may choose to live in big cities alone, but she herself, living under this constant repression for tens of years, probably doesn't find it possible to find another way for herself other than continue to live with "family". And if she didn't force her daughter to apologize, or even maybe try to defend her daughter, she might have to live her life even harder since then.

I can't say I agree with her decision, but I can see how that decision may be made.

Yep, it's a lot harder for older folks to leave high-control environments into which they have invested much of their life than for younger people.

Family, am I right? Haha ha

I wonder when it became this difficult getting along with them. I went back to my hometown this year with my mum, I genuinely couldn't remember why I stopped going there.
But a few days there and I felt so suffocated that I just made haphazard travel arrangements hopping from one town to another just because I couldn't get a direct flight back.

Even now, I won't able to list any particular reason, but I dread going back and meeting family over there

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Well...this was depressing as shit