The nuance is kinda subtle, so I'm sure the distinction can get a bit hazy sometimes.
Yeah, maybe it's too subtle for me, or maybe I just find it to be an oxymoron (or would it be paradox?) like "altruism".
I think I can conceptualize the difference if I emphasize the following bits:
...getting pleasure from seeing the other person in whatever state of sexual mess you like putting them in
as opposed to
getting pleasure from seeing the other person in whatever state of sexual mess they wanted to be put in
Really subtle, especially since ideally the two bold parts overlap.
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