Lol! I love Yuri. I can not say that enough. Unfortunately, I can't/haven't shared that with anyone I know. If it's yuri, I will like it unless the plot is just disturbing or terrible and I can't do yaoi. I have read some but overall it's not my cup of tea and I will never completely understand how yaoi got so big.
I think it's mostly because of straight women that consume and make it. There's a fair amount of fetishization is present but there are also those who do try to do respectful interpretations. While for wlw there seems to be a demand in the straight male audience but I don't think a lot of them produce content, so it leaves mostly fellow wlws (and gay people are statistically slightly less than straight peeps so).
With this most mlm content predominantly consumed because "hot men yeehaw" like how some straight men only see wlw as threesome material and do not really support or consume homoerotic media of tge same sex as them. (That said there are also "fake allies" that try to gatekeep everything according to twitter or whatever and actual allies that just have a lean on one of them so I don't want to discredit them)
I had a discussion on this online with someone online and that pretty much sums up our observations.