Oh and I hate these types of stories with lines such as "I can never break free from her control", it's such an angst fueled defeatist attitude and only says to me that the author loves tragedy porn.
…but that kind of stuff is like, exactly what happens in abusive relationships. Abusers make you feel like you have to pay to keep having access to something you need, that the energy to get out is a super high requirement, and they want you to feel like it’s impossible. To someone who craves attachment and companionship, threatening to leave someone is a powerful tool to get them to do anything, it’s really good at making them stay.
Yeah I understand what you're saying and I'm aware of that aspect of abusive relationships. As I said abusive relationships are difficult and you expanded on my thoughts well there, but as I said my main problem with this is that it feels like stories like such as this fetishize it more than anything.
To include the rest of what I said "It's not compelling or interesting to me, I know toxic relationships are very difficult, but I think stories like this just fetishize them more than anything."
That's just it for me, it's entirely possible to have a story about an abusive relationship be interesting and compelling, but I think I'd want there to be some way for the abused party to overcome their defeatist attitude. Which I know isn't easy, but I think if a person seeks help from something such as therapy they might be able to find a way to break free. Instead of a story like this where it just ends with the character giving in, and the author is basically saying "things are hopeless". Not a message I personally like is all.
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