Reejun posted:
So... what are you suggesting? That she'd throw all fetters to the wind and goes on a journey to find her inner young lesbian by having sex with all cute girls in sight?
Why would you think some kind of extreme is supposed to be the alternative?
There's plenty of things she could do instead of quitting her job and following her mother's wishes. The basics would be to allow herself to still feel youthful, her keep her nice hairstyle, and not feel guilty about having sex with Touma. Maybe she could have more sex with Touma. Maybe she could find romance elsewhere.
Also not bend to will of her parents and tell them fuck you I'm marring when I want, who I want, so don't tell me what to do. Oh also I will dress however I want, so you opinion is irrelevant. Simply doing what others tell her to do what a adult should do is not being a adult. The important part is that she didn't want to go to interview or marry a guy, but she was told that is what adults are doing so she did it, to feel like a adult. Her mother kept telling her what she can and can't do as adult, so she cut herself off from everything that would be seen as not adult like, like having sex with girls or having her bangs show to feel more like a adult, but that wasn't what she actually wanted to do. She was under the impression that is what she has to do to become a adult, because she was constantly told so. Experience with Touma made her realized that until she herself change her behavior to adult-like nothing will do it for her. The tragedy is that instead of actually finding that out for herself what being a adult mean, she just followed what she was told she is supposed to do. The point is, it all boils down to old and tired "pressure of society". She was certain age, so she was pressured to act as a adult in the way society expected adults to act. And again we are back to implication that that also suggest, adults are not allowed to have same sex relationships/sex, cos she attributes it to something young people do. And of course she wishes she was younger, pretty strongly implicating that she want to experience more of it, but she can't anymore, because she is a adult. And again, she herself might not agree with it, but that is what society pressured her to think. (Also sure, Touma kun might be representing a guy or youth's freedom to have random sex in general or something like that, but it is written as yuri manga with women so I'm reading it as jab at homosexuality).
Also I have to admit once we agreed Touma is a concept, not character, talking about series become much easier.
EDIT/ Also I can't believe I didn't think of it earlier. You all are saying how marriage not necessary has to be bad, it isn't wrong she consider a possibility of marring a random guy (who knows, maybe they will click, but again, why not random girl then?), but you are still acting like she has to marry at some point. That marring is essential part of being a adult. What happened to option of just being a single? Concept of marring is old, but for the most part it was mostly done for political and/or financial reasons, not really in order to gain happiness (that concept is relatively new). So saying most people done it, is not really that good, considering you are just pushing that outdated mind-set on Fumi, just like her parents do.
last edited at Apr 21, 2018 8:00AM