I've watched nazi fucks online try to push I and many other trans people to suicide. I've watched them spam gas chamber memes and transphobic horseshit. I even know of at least one trans person who was in fact driven to suicide by this abuse.
I'm not going to be nice to these fucks. I'm not going to mind my manners to these fucks. I'm not going to watch my language for these fucks. Their ideology is the rooted in the violent oppression and eradication of any other that doesn't fit their fucking ideal. They put queer people like me in camps. They burned down the institute that was making great progress on trans issues, destroying a big part of our history in the process.
I will not be nice nor calm nor tolerant.
Nazis are bad. People who "pretend" to be nazis are bad. The groups participate in the same harassment campaigns together. There is no meaning or value in trying to tell which is the real nazi and which is the one who's not technically a nazi but still tries to push trans women to suicide.
They should not be tolerated. They should not be given a fucking inch. They should be given no space no concessions and should be met with violent opposition wherever they show up. Being a nazi isn't the same as being black, or jewish, or queer. It is a violent ideology of white supremacy that has already resulted in a holocaust. There are still people alive who were around for that.
If you tolerate nazis, if you think giving them space is good, if you think they deserve this fucking encouragement, then you are ally to them and I loathe you as much as I do them, because if you aren't actually a nazi you should fucking know better.