Because 14 years changes a person. You soon realize the little shit you were pining over was just a selfish, little shit and you should move on. That and Asuka gets along well with people who are as cocky as she is. Just look at misato and kaji.
26 pics this update, btw. So if you are reading this and you didn't already know, there is one more picture for you to look at on the next "Images" page back.