@Miki that's the spirit! Always better to have a surplus than not to have anything.

It's fine, we're all a bit off in Dynasty Cafe. Feel free to say what ya want to.

Sorry to hear that, those kind of situations hurt both sides. Best thing to do in those cases is either waiting itndown or confronting and being up front.

I hope everything will turn out well to you.

@Galich, honestly, I'm not sure if there is much to say about what's going on. It's really just, a friend has been ignoring me (and admitted to it) since my birthday. I've been trying to send her messages to tell her how I feel, but she doesn't seem to care.

It's not the first time something like this has happened. I just feel worse than usual because this friend is someone who was really important to me.

@Miki - hi. gonna jump in on this conversation as i've had the exact same thing happen. so as to your friend, sometimes it's best to just step back and give them space. you can always let your friend know that they are important to you and that when they are ready to talk, you'll be there. i know what i wrote may sound cliche and counter-intuitive, but there may be some merit to it because sometimes, people just need time to work through their own issues. also, there is the possibility that the reason(s) your friend isn't speaking with you is because of something totally unrelated. until your friend let's you know, I can only imagine that not being able to talk it out will continue to bother you; but don't let this get you down, and don't give up being her friend.

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@ciega, I think it's already too late. It's been two months and I tried to give her as much space as I could, while periodically sending her messages to voice my feelings, but she hasn't bothered to respond. Earlier she deleted me off Facebook and all other social media so I took that as a sign that she's done with the friendship.

It kinda made me think like, I really am terrible at keeping friends.

@Miki - i thought the same thing. it took about 3 years in my case. as for keeping friends, friendships are very much like relationships. both sides have to work at them. now i have another question for you. were the two of you friends offline, or solely online/facebook friends?

@Miki - as Galich mentioned above, you're in good company. i'm sure the lot of us are all misfits in one way or another.

:-)

as to your online friend, you can always take one of two approaches. you can leave things alone for a while and see if she starts contacting you again, or you can cut your losses and enjoy the conversations you've had. i know the way i'm framing this is a bit detached (probably not the best word to use), but if she is truly your friend, she'll get back in touch with you. if not, she really isn't your friend.

second, there is a huge benefit to chatting online. you get to communicate with lots of interesting people and hopefully make some meaning connections like getting to know the people you chat with or in sime cases dating them. also, and this is my most sincere opinion, if you can talk to complete strangers online and become friendly with them, you can do the same irl. it'll probably take a lot more practice, but i think you can do it.

So, don't let this situation get you down. this all is going to work itself out one way or the other.

and on that note, i'm outta here. take care and have a good night/good morning !

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@Miki pretty much agreed with ciega on all fronts. I'll speak from my experience; sometimes I felt so overwhelmed from others (saying this as a very sociable person that needs to have a few moments for self) that I've cut all the ties with them. It wasn't their fault, but I just felt like everything was progressing too fast.

In this case, give it so time, and don't be too forceful, it may make the situation worse. Sometimes it's small things that may make one uncomfortable, so forcing one's way wouldn't work here.

And yea, if she doesn't want to have anything to do with you and never comes back, and I l know it's gonna sound awful, it's a lost cause. Just don't kick yourself over it and try to broaden your horizons; don't give a toss about whether a friend is from the Internet or real life, very often it's much easier to open to people across the globe with problems that bother you (talking about generic friends from the 'Net and not this thread) - they're as much of a friend as those you see in person.

And yea, I do think that everyone here is a misfit one way or another. After all, we all take a lion's share of our day that we could spend irl and use it to write our thoughts to like-minded individuals for various reasons that I don't think are needed to be listed. Wow, this sounds much worse than it did in my mind >.>

This post may seem chaotic but I just woke up >.> Good morning/night everyone! How are ya doing so far?

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Hi guys :)
@Miki I also agree with ciega and Galich, so I wont repeat them. From my experience, sometimes life makes you a favor and gets you rid of the people who don't deserve you, when you yourself don't have the strength to do so...oh, I don't have many friends irl obviously, and even fewer online xD

But we are all friendly here^^ I picture us as the strangely formed colorful pieces who fit into a lovely puzzle^^

oh, well.. yesterday was a bit meh.. but today is a better day... there is the opening ceremony of the Olympics.. which means soon we will have the opportunity to contemplate the hot muscly women doing some athletics xD *just a joke

I'm having my third coffee for the day, and since it's a cafe and we are all friends, let me treat you to some coffee.. though I don't know your preferable caffeine containing beverages.. so I will improvise.. there you go..

p.s it's up to you to imagine the bossa nova music backgound xD

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@Blackkitty I feel jealous right now >.> Is it an actual coffee that you've made? If so, it's amazing v:

I love going to cafes, even if it's just to sit alone and drink a coffee or two.

Well, in the social department I'm the polar oposite of others. Chatty, sociable and extrovert by nature, I'm a pal-to-everyone but friend to almost no one. Kind of like loneliness in a crowd of people that you know well enough to consider them someone you enjoy talking to, but not being in good enough terms to actually talk about anything meaningful.

It's much better than it sounds, trust me. I tend to be perceived as very good at social stuff, which means people tend to consider me a bit less of a weirdo, but always ask when I'm not there "hey, Galich is so sociable, but have you got any idea with whom they're friends with?"

@Rina So things are slowly looking up to you? Glad to hear that. Don't worry about not being the most of sociable people, many people (including me) perceive it as a positive thing, even cute at times.

Well, as long as you feel good around someone and don't give them enough information at first so they won't have a way of double-crossing you, it's all good.

Well, looks like Dynasty Cafe is not only a home for off topic discussion, but also a home for those who undersleep all the time.

Well, how positive I am in this thread varies over day and topic of discussion. I like a little bit of balance here and there.

Crossed the point of 300 posts a while ago, maybe I should get myself one of those coffees to celebrate?

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@Rina hey, this sounds sweet ^_^ I hope you will have enough of luck to keep her around longer. :)

@Galich hah, I wish... I have no such talents...

Congrats, help yourself with some nicely brewed fresh coffee. xD
I wish Chocolate were here as well, would've treated them to some as well.

Oh, thakfully I have some friends to take me occasionally out to a cafe...

@Galich of course the would take you for outgoing... you are an Aquarius xD

@Blackkitty while I tend not to believe in such stuff, being an Aquarius really suits my personality well. Especially the flaws.

Well, I am gonna treat myself some coffee then, be right back :P

Whenever you're annoyed with someone, this is the perfect song for you:

https://vimeo.com/11323352

(^_-)v

To start the new page on another topic, what's the latest song or artist that everyone came across?

Something I totally missed when I was younger: Hobo Humpin Slobo Babe by Whale, which (aside from being a totally insane name for a song) was featured on Beavis & Butthead way back in the day when MTV still had music videos....

https://youtu.be/2up7su7CeMU

Gotta admit, I didn't know that song but sigh... the 90s... Beavis & Butthead that's how I grew up.
I started learning English with those shows... Daria among them. Still love it today.
Thanks for sharing!

To start the new page on another topic, what's the latest song or artist that everyone came across?

Something I totally missed when I was younger: Hobo Humpin Slobo Babe by Whale, which (aside from being a totally insane name for a song) was featured on Beavis & Butthead way back in the day when MTV still had music videos....

https://youtu.be/2up7su7CeMU

@OldFart That song name isn't that strange to me. Now a here's a strange album name: "The Electric Warlock Acid Witch Satanic Orgy Celebration Dispenser" by Rob Zombie. When I read that I was like what??? O.o Then I read the song titles. I was like he lost it didn't he? Yup, he did.

The latest song I've head was "7 Days to the Wolves" by Nightwish.

What's the longest song you've heard from start to finish and enjoyed?

@ Z. Long

Two of the longest songs that immediately come to mind are:

Tool – Schism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2iGVBlfg2E
(Great video!)

And The Doors – The End
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JSUIQgEVDM4

I like both. ^^

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I double both. Not a fan of prog, so I don't know all that many long songs.

@ Blackkitty

Sorry for the late reply once again! m(_ _)m
he he he ^^ Thanks, I will. But I don't know how long it will take until I'll be able to sleep properly again... It seems that this house does not intend to let me sleep late. Today when I finally managed to fall asleep some prick started drilling.... for hours... How many holes can you possibly drill in a fucking flat...???
I don't know if I'll change my avatar again any time soon... We'll see ;)
But I'm glad that you seem to like him ^^

That's a pity. I always find it sad when I see families with no deeper connection at all.
Unfortunately it happens all too often...

Not so sure about that. My sister never had any luck with men... But we'll see. Maybe she does find the right guy one day...

When you donate blood you get a little ID card with your blood type and everything important on it.
That's how I know mine. But I still always forget what it is ^^
The only thing I remember is that I'm a universal donor...

@ Rina

The latest singer I've discovered and that I really like is this girl here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CR6M_sqTVqE
Kovacs – My love

I really love her voice! (^_^)b

Thanks for all the music you share!

@ Miki

I really hope that things will work out for you somehow or that you'll get some answers at least...
Being left in the dark is not a nice feeling...

What's the longest song you've heard from start to finish and enjoyed?

Probably Iron Butterfly's In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida, just because its damn near 18 minutes long, which released was a few years before my time (4 to be exact). Its one of those oddly pleasing tunes even if its complete and total nonsense...

Though I guess I could actually go with something more along the lines of E.G. Daily's Love in the Shadows (Extended) since she was an 80s rocker....back when I was a teenager.

https://youtu.be/AsouEFb_0-c

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Oh, I love that one!!! I mean, Iron Butterfly - In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida.

But I really didn't remember that it was this long... (^_^")

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@Anon you've reminded me of MTV.. well, since my country is a bit behind, we've had it play music for a few years more than the people west of us. Doesn't change the fact it's an embarrassment to music >.>

Well.... I miss the old MTV. The one we had in the 90s...
Not how it was before it disappeared.

Well, I dont even think it has "music" inside of it's name anymore.

Well, I remember this one programme that was playing songs and translating them into Polish.. early 2000s. Fun, since I knew no English back then.

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@Miki, VTMB, good game choice. It's one of the few games I have a lot of playthroughs in. It's been a while since I played though.

i'm apologizing in advance for my ramblings. i am feel very chatty right now.

@Miki - hope to catch you later.

To start the new page on another topic, what's the latest song or artist that everyone came across?

music. artists. wot's dat? of late that's been my feeling. if it weren't for the CD i bought and my occaisional bouts of channel surfing, i'd never listen to anything with the exception that (ugh!) i've turned into my parents and have been listening to talk radio and BBC broadcasts when i can catch them.

also, i'm not big into metal, punk, or seriously heavy rock. can anyone suggest an artist that is more lyrical/melodic?

@old fart - love the name. it's how i feel most of the time and goes along nicely with my new rant on how 'getting older is a ?itch' :-(

@Blackkitty - that coffee pic looks sooooo cute! please say the kitties are actually foam! if not, was that a cup lid?

@All - OK, so i was watching tv and the show mentioned a Swiss cafe that was offering coffee and fellatio. i thought it was a joke so I goggle'd it. it was no joke. (hopefuly this next statement doesn't rub anyone the wrong way but...) i am always amazed by European's unrestrained attitudes towards sex and what not. a cafe like that definitely could not and would not open up here in the US. you kind of have to wonder if the service is a success, will they expand to cocoa and cunnilingus?

actually, doesn't offering sex acts border on prostitution? ok, i realize my comment may be a bit ignorant to make because it depends on the law, but i really am amazed it's a thing.