^ Quantum stuff is nondeterministic and changes based on the observer, non-binary is constantly non-male and non-female no matter the observer (or if there is an observer or not). I don't think quantum stuff is a good analogy for non-binary as a gender.
An objective reality and quantum physics are not necessarily mutually exclusive.
It's entirely possible for there to be an objective "truth" that we can't perceive because us perceiving it changes it, but it's still nevertheless objectively true.
It's also debatable whether being non-binary means actually being neither male nor female or if it's still simply being "male and female" in different ratios but rejecting the conventional associations of the terms.
What is "female"? What is "male"? Having a penis? Brain chemistry? What specific brain chemistry is "male" and where does it begin and end? Is it a preference? An inclination? An emotion? An emotion only motivated by something specific but not if motivated by something else?
Who's to say that the things we equate to being "male" is actually "being male" and not just arbitrary or illusionary?
After all, it's not like people who are non-binary are biologically alien compared to other humans, they just don't identify with the binary gender terms we've historically developed but they're the same species and DNA as the rest of us.
The hypothetical scenario posed earlier, that of a person who's male in one dimension, female in one dimension and non-binary in our dimension where the other two are superimposed over one another; is actually only flawed in the sense that it treats being "male" and "female" as the two end points of the spectrum and equates being "non-binary" to existing somewhere in-between or on top of.
To be more accurate, the two "points" that exist in different universes that overlap to become non-binary would need to be the literal and proverbial end points of human gender definition, which we simply don't have any terms or definitions readily available for. (That's assuming the human gender definition only has- or could be broken into- 2 points and isn't more of a wibbly-wobbly-timey-wimey... thing.)
"Male" and "female" are simply too subjective and ever-changing terms to reliably call the end points, should they exist.
If I were to define the premise suggested above with the Schroedinger's gender plot, I'd do as follows:
The protagonist is someone who can see one reality in one eye and another reality in the other; in one reality people are one gender and in the other they are the other. When she looks at someone with both her eyes, she sees "her" reality, the "superimposed" one where people are whatever they identify as. (Don't know how to phrase that better.)
Then she meets a person who's non-binary and discovers that they only exist in the superimposed reality and not in either of the component realities at all, and she can only see them with both her eyes and not if she closes one.
Que plot stuff, few dozen chapters of UST, a beach episode, kiss at the fireworks festival, the end.
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