Parnifia the Bastard posted:
I think you're misreading Botan. What they did to her was a betrayal on a very deep level. Her decision to leave was completely justified. Relationships need boundaries. If someone violates your trust that completely and destroys something you care about, it's perfectly reasonable to leave and never speak to them again.
She apparently assumed that she could keep this relationship and her family separate, and that it wouldn't be a problem.
Which she did until stubborn guy hit her by mistake and siblings assumed something was wrong and they assumed that she is in abusive relationship and then without talking they found different guy and assumed it was the guy who hit her and abused him without any proof. Yea, clearly it was her fault. And even when they noticed the bruise she did try to hid it, because she never told them anything about it, because it was none of their business.
She wasn't exactly subtle about how she was hiding something, so of course her family would be worried about it and want to pursue the matter, and of course they were going to assume the worst once they got a clue.
And that somehow justify them basically assuming everything, misunderstanding situation, taking action without talking to Botan at all and actually hurting her in the process?
Not speaking to any of them about it was an incredibly poor decision, and guilt-tripping them afterwards was uncalled for.
Not speaking to them about something that they didn't need to know, weren't affect by and so far lived perfectly fine without knowing was indeed a incredibly poor decision.
Her sisters may have made bad choices in the heat of the moment and regretted them later, but if Botan thinks she played her cards exactly right she is sorely mistaken.
By "bad choices in the heat of the moment", you mean how they spend a lot of time talking about it between themselves, strategizing what to do, stalking Botan to find the guy that hurt her (and failed) and then abusing him without any proof he was the guy or really anything and making a scene that in the only hurt Botan instead of helping her? You mean that exact moment? Yea, Botan totally failed to deliver her cards here to prevent her siblings acting on their own and ruining everything, which somehow is justified when they do it, because they are family and care about her, even if in the end their actions leave her deeply hurt.
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