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mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I can't believe I'm saying this but not all girls, in a yuri, have to be lesbians.

I agree but it's possible though, I had like 3 or 4 lesbians in my class and most of them were still in the closet the first few years.

They're at the age where their friend group is more defined by interests versus defaulting to classmates. Queer people end up flocking together. I'm not bothered by it either way.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

This is still one of my favorites. It's much more realistic than a lot of the stories on this site. It's one of the better coming of age/slice of life stories. Not everyone is able to be self-aware enough to accept their identity at a young age (I liked how Tsubaki-kun's story was handled, in re-reading it, you can see some of his worse behavior is gay panic), and not everyone pairs up immediately, even if compatible.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I've never understood the "parent(s) had debt and ran away so suddenly the child is responsible for it" bullshit that's shown in stuff like this and Hayate no Gotoku. That's not how any of that works at all. It would actually be an interesting story if this could happen in real life.

It actually does happen in real life, with companies trying to foist debts on relatives. Thankfully my family knew to say 'no.' So I could see yakuza trying it.

Anyway... good story!

It happens in America a lot. Protip: if you have an indebted relative who dies, NEVER agree to pay any part of their debt (you aren't legally required to, only their estate is) a ton of people get scammed that way.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

This is cute but also really sad because she was more interesting before. Also glasses are the best.

I think now that she knows her GF is a K-pop nerd, she'll feel more comfortable opening up about her own nerdy side.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I read this series as being about how self-defeating major depression is, packaged with boobs, because those sell better than pure depression.

You see how much Neeko's family loves her, they never want to hurt her, and they wants her to do well. But you can see how they feel helpless, knowing that they can't just fix her because mental health is complicated, even though the solutions are obvious (just do the things you should be doing). They are willing to go to bat for her often, even though it's thankless.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

This will never be a romance manga. It will always continue to be a "cute girls doing cute things" manga, even if it continues until the characters are middle aged. Expecting anything else is going to be setting yourself up for disappointment. The author doesn't seem interested in exploring exactly what Kasumi and Sakurako's relationship is. You can read them as asexual soulmates, or imagine that they just are very physically demonstrative off-camera, there won't be any clear contradiction of either interpretation.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

My wife is a total fan of male pairings (she asked me to read a ton of crazy Sherlock fan-theory, and right now she's all about The Untamed - which is easier for me to deal with, as the show itself has depth beyond the relationship stuff, and the couple actually ends up together).

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

It's been a while. I just re-read it again so I could give a thorough critique.

I think that this story could've been so much better. I think there was a lot of wasted potential to discuss various queer issues. I felt that a lot of the queer plot points seemed to primarily served to be fodder to spur speeches full of platitudes, especially by the straight characters. It felt like a "very special" episode in parts. Basically is was too simple and generic of a story (a girl falls for a endlessly selfless and understanding boy who is helpful to her when she's going through a difficult point in her life) for the (queer) themes it seemed like it wanted to explore.

It's not horrible, but it didn't live up to its promise.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

(I also love her saying she's in the second half of her 20s, despite it being made clear she's 30)

Ages 20-29 are the first half of your 20s, 30-39 are the second half. XD

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Reading a yuri story, but I actually wouldn't mind if Tsuruta ends up with Miwa. Getting sick of Saeko shits. At least Tsuruta seems like a nice guy. He always got Miwa's back and get her off a tight spot. The dude genuinely cares for Miwa.

Except that Miwa is squarely a lesbian? And Tsuruta literally knows this, which makes his continued crush on her all the more sad and pathetic.

"Pathetic", he can't help it if he likes someone. If this was a girl having a crush on a girl she knew was straight you all would be in tears cheering her on.

He's not pathetic for finding Miwa attractive. He's pathetic for not moving on, just hovering, hoping she'll change something that's understood to be immutable. Moving on from a crush, is something pretty much everyone has to do. Their crush marries someone else, they have a deal breaker, they just aren't interested in them, etc. It's not healthy to fixate on things that aren't possible.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Raising kids is hard, especially as they get older. By the time you have young adult children, you've live your life independently for a few decades and have found what works for that, and you want to give that to your children. But everyone has to do that for themselves, you can't give them a short-cut by just coercing them into making choices that would've made sense for you when you were their age. You just have to teach them to value themselves, and assuming they're sensitive and smart, they can figure out how to protect and care for themselves then.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I ship Neeko X proper mental health care more than I ship most couples on this site. Poor girl, she's suffering so much.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

It's funny how they both sort of have the same core problem: trying to hide their insecurities and never resolve them (and I see myself in both of them, fuck). Saeko is just better at hiding them usually, even from herself. As long as they just treat each other's flaws as "cute," it won't be possible for them to make a deep, honest connection. It sorta feels like the author is deconstructing the common yuri (or really, romance manga in general) relationship dynamics of 'shy, needy bottom x bold, possessive top,' pointing out how unhealthy that can be, regardless of how nice it feels in the moment. Usshi was onto something when she guessed that people want relationships because they like to feel needed. Regardless of where the relationship ends up, I think the characters are going to grow a lot from it. Happy for Miwa taking her first steps this chapter.

And we're at over three months already. Was that mentioned before? Guess it's time to prepare for the downward spiral.

As someone married over 10 years: neither yourself nor your partner will ever be perfect. Your partner will always have faults and insecurities that are dumb, and annoying, that they should just fix/get over (and you will have the same). The key to a happy relationship is to not focus on their minor faults (now abusive behavior is different), treat those like a trick knee, something you just have to work around and you can get along fine. Obsess about how your partner always leaves a mess in the kitchen/leaves socks on the floor, and you won't have a happy relationship.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I thought the author's name was familiar, it's the person behind Octave (definitely worth a read if you haven't).

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Has anyone watched the live action version of this? It seems hard to find subbed, but I'm also a little skeptical that this could even work half as well without the body horror expressions.

I've seen some of it. The actresses try very hard and they are actually good. But man, no amount of talent could replicate those expressions. Plus the constant monologue looks kinda weird in live action. Just my opinion tho, the autor seems to like it so.?

They really do their best at trying to be human cartoons. I've seen one episode, it wasn't as bad as I was expecting, given that the material is 90% about comically exaggerated reactions. The actress who plays Mikage kind of reminded me of the actress who plays Villanelle.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Hana-chan sure is thirsty.

She seems at least as sheltered as Yamada. Kase isn't wrong to direct her towards guys she at least has some knowledge of.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

That's cute. But, is she more an author vs a mangaka, or is mangaka more general than comic artists?

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Adorable, fairly unique.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Well, I think IRL it'd be bizarre for things to progress so quickly - or at least in a long term relationship that lasts, but I don't think entering into a relationship is the main story of the manga, but the whole career conflict feelings of the MC (dating someone succeeding in something you quit for mysterious reasons is probably going to be a source of angst, but hopefully growth too). I'm interested in seeing where this goes.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

I'm not sure why, but I really enjoy this manga. I don't care if they ever kiss or move in together, I just like them awkwardly hanging out, trying to "normal human" properly.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

They say a marathon, but I don't think they really mean a marathon. Those damn things are F-in long. My dad runs them. once he had me drop him off at the start, and pick im up at the finish. It took me a half hour of highway driving to get between the two.

https://chaniebon.com/blog/2016/2/19/marathon-taikai
http://michellestimeinjapan.blogspot.com/2014/12/running-japanese-high-school-marathon.html

It's a 5-8k run - so doable in under an hr for the 5k, maybe a little more than an hr for the 8k. I think the idea of going from only having PE class and being otherwise sedentary to running a full marathon (~42k) would be crazy and result in injuries or it would take literally all day.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

Wow, the art really has an 80/90s vibe to it. I like it.

American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

The problem when you build your relationship as a "brand" - you feel pressured to make it look perfect all the time, because people want to believe perfect is reachable. I don't know if perfect exists or not, but most of us are flawed people who will be in relationships with other flawed people. There's going to be friction between competing desires and visions for the future some of the time, compromises will have to be made. The key is to always be respectful of your partner, and accept some of their flaws as funny little quirks.

mccann
P=NP? discussion 13 Apr 20:52
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

That's the tension, Shino's motives are unknown and look questionable. RomComs need tension. I hope Eriko and Shino learn how to communicate well with each other. And Eriko should do her own homework already.

mccann
American_virgin
joined May 25, 2014

This one is so cute and pure. :-)