Salamandrake posted:
I felt like Touma was similar to another character, and finally it dawned on me. She's like the younger version of Suwako-san, only more flirty and gives great haircuts.
Suwako actually only sleeps with people she loves. She can just love multiple people deeply at the same time, while Touma doesn't actually want any deep feelings.
I think they're both similar in that they make a lot of people feel "special", but by doing so those people aren't really "special" anymore.
One can argue that "special" has different meaning for each individual, but look at the MCs who are in love with Suwako and Touma respectively. They want to be "special" as in "the only one" in the eyes of the ones they love, and given the nature of Suwako and Touma, it's impossible.
Oddly enough, I actually happen to have some insight about this, as my best friend and enduring support is polyamorous. I had already sent her Touma-kun (which earned me a story about how she once punched a girl in the face in her high school's cafeteria), so I also sent her the Suwako-san chapters and asked if she wanted to comment. I figured anything she had to say might be a constructive contribution here. This was her response:
"To begin, I would say that of the two, I'm more like Suwako-san. However, while many people probably can't see much difference between myself and either character, I personally cannot understand the mindset of someone who 'loves everyone equally.' In fact, I question if such a person exists. For me, it's not so much about how much I love someone, as it is why I love a certain person and how I came to love that person. For instance, I love you [addressing me] like a little sister, but that certainly isn't the same love that would I would want to have sex with you over (no offense). And the talk of being 'special' bothers me a lot as well. I would never tell someone 'That's what makes you special.' Rather, I say 'That's why I love you.' And I only say that when I mean it, and think carefully about what kind of response I'll get from the partner I'm speaking to. Moreover, as I've told you many times, I've spent a lot of time and effort into making sure I can safely live the life I lead, which doesn't appear to be the case with these characters. Not to conflate fiction with reality, but I can't see their situations ending in anything but tragedy one way or another. I strive to be someone who can't be called 'irresponsible.' I know for a fact that you understand this much, but I hope everyone reading these stories doesn't think actual polyamory works this way, as it wouldn't work at all as presented here."
As an addendum:
"Now I'm wishing I had women [and men] throwing themselves on me in school. Might have saved me a lot of anxiety and depression. Or maybe it would have ended up worse. Actually, it's probably better not to think about that."