I'm pretty sure yoga and positive thinking do not change human nature or the all-encompassing power of jealousy.
The most likely ways polyamory can work:
1. One side of the triangle has a weaker attraction that none of the involved take as seriously. That reduces friction. I'd hate that, because that makes them not equal, but some people are fine with that. The type that doesn't like clinging to each other or being too committed (actually that kinda sums up most real life polyamory situations well).
2. All three partners need to be the extremely easy-going type. You know the one, those who are always unreasonably understanding of everything and woiuld never hurt a fly. I have trouble seeing three people of that same nature getting into that kind of situation in the first place though.
3. Ideally - and this is the rarest of all - everyone in the triangle loves each other. Like actually love, not just tolerate. Even then, irrational jealousy can still occur. If two of the three have a fight and the third one is stuck between them, having to choose sides, that would be unbelievably taxing. Then they are questioned who they actually love "more" and at that point it all goes to Gehenna.
Polyamory has many issues beyond the emotional level of course, but I think if it fails at the foundation (emotions), the rest is shaky too.
Could people who haven't ever been in a poly relationship please stop talking about it as if it's set in stone that it can never work and trying it is stupid?
This idea is honestly really toxic and leads to people in those relationships just assuming from the start that it won't work which is not the case.
Do you know why you only see instances of Poly that don't work out in the open? Because that's the kind that gets the most drama and thus is more juicy to show.
This constant "oh it won't work out" or harassment from others on why the relationship is a mistake is so bullshit, I lost one of my two girlfriends to this garbage.
