So much blame heaped on a kid that was probably as confused as the friend - or even more, since the friend at least figured things out enough to be able to speak about it to others. Why do I still bother reading comments in this cesspit?
Hmm yes because "kids" shouldn't experience the consequences of their actions. It's not like they're toddlers in high school. And it's very clearly obvious that this "kid" has thought about it enough to have a response prepared.
So yes, people have put the blame on her and I, for one, think that's valid. She thought of her actions, executed them, and is still rejecting the idea of being with her friend even in her fantasy. The blame is on her. Bed she made, she has to lie in it.