Regarding the discussion about tomboys and their gender/sexual expression, I would personally consider myself more of a Tomboy (now as an adult I embrace both feminine and masculine traits however), tho I used to be the most tomboyish during my Teenager years when I struggled with my identity. I pretty much hated anything girly and tried to act as much as a boy as possible and never really understood why. I always thought I wanted to be a boy even tho I didn't really had anything against being a girl but now that I'm grown up and look back, I can actually understand why I felt that way.
I grew up in a pretty conservative and homophobic town so fitting into gender roles was still pretty popular there. Since I couldn't identify with the role I was given based on my gender, I thought I had to act like the opposite gender in order not to get associated with that role. Additionally, I liked girls but since Homosexuality was a taboo thing in my town to discuss, I had no idea that girls could like girls and that only boys were allowed to do that. Once I grew up I understood that the whole forced gender role concept was bullshit and girls could indeed do and behave however they wanted and I was simply a victim of a sexist and homophobic mindset. After realising that, I became comfortable with my womanhood while simultaneously embracing both masculine and feminine traits about me. I also would feel comfortable with being both top and bottom or rather I don't really like to label myself as dominant or passive because sex can be way more than just these two roles.
Also, people used to tell me I should've been born a boy because of my behavior and interests which only fueled the sexist idea that women couldn't do and like the same things men do. But now I understand that we are actually individuals and our interests are not necessarily dependent on our gender, so yeah. That was my journey :P
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