When only women are involved all toxic things become noble.
I'm not sure why it's happening, but truly, comparing same thing looking through het prism, and looking through lesbian prism, its not the same "aura".
Does anyone have some idea why?
There are two things at play here.
First is the tendency and trend of hetero porn towards raunch and degradation for their own sakes. It's by no means universal, but the mainstream has had something of a race to the bottom, because when you desperately need to stand out from your competitors to be noticed but have no budget, making the sex dirtier and meaner is an easy solution. This then washes back into media in general, and young people's of heterosexuality.
The other is, sadly, misogyny, both externalized and internalized. "If both parties are women, then this toxic relationship can't really be bad, because women can't really hurt anybody." "The madam has a heart of gold, because, after all, she's a woman." "They're both girls, it can't really be rape." It's the same thing as, "He wasn't really raped, his assailant was a woman." Female sexuality, and female violence, are seen as inherently softer, and thus no threat to either men or other women, because women are soft and pure and can't hurt anybody, not in a real way.
(This is all very cisnormative, but of course that's part of the point. To be anything but a man is to be lesser, and to be a woman is the worst thing, so trans women are at once lesser, traitors, and attacking — trying to fool people that they have that special woman purity — and trans men are pretending to an undeserved greatness, while the nonbinary have broken the social compact and are doing both things wrong.)
To be clear, I like this piece, and I think the depiction here of love between a sex worker and her promoter is very sweet. But you'd never see the same story were the pimp male, and that's not primarily because of misandry.
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