Eh there are quite a few women who think they are "asexual" before realizing they are just gay. Like late-blooming lesbians who spend years thinking they must be straight but can't feel anything.
Hmm. I will admit my ex thought she was asexual aromantic until she met me. Since I was attached to my demisexual and quoiromantic lesbian identity (side note: I had high sex drive and was pretty certain of my labels but never “tested them out” since I never fell in love) I thought I had met another fellow aro ace spec friend. Of course by the time we started dating and I learned she developed her sexual and romantic attraction way faster than my slow ass, we knew she wasn’t aro or ace. As she developed those attractions before getting to know me well while I had to wait for those conditions.
I had almost argued a lot in the comments section in Bloom Into You about what asexuality means, as I felt that the commenters were criticizing based on impression or biased knowledge. I do want to observe the comments in this series, and I hope I don’t get myself triggered if I see things I don’t agree with. Most of what sets me off is the misconception about how sex plays a part in the attraction identity. And lemme just say, sex = activity, asexual = type of attraction, asexual =/= celibate or no libido or sex repulsed. Before people go off the rails and start fighting about the representation here -_-
Also probably will forget I posted in here lol.