Wow...and suddenly A LOT of us readers can actually relate to this. . .
I once had a relationship end on the note of, "I can't get thrown out of the house again."
It wasn't nearly so serious of a relationship as your example, but yeah it's an incredibly familiar story.
Sadly, even in this day an age in some of the more "progressive" countries, this remains all too common a story. It's particularly vicious in tight knit families that have very strong conservative traditions which are drilled in and internalized from a very young age. 
I have a life long fried who is both very gay and outwardly rabidly homophobic. He is now in his 40s and has lived his entire life alone without a single romantic partner due trying to live up to the roll that was thrust on him as the only male offspring in a Catholic Latino family. Basically he was supposed to be the one to carry on the family name by starting a family of his own and instead he is this terribly bitter man, consumed by a hatred for that part of himself he cannot change. Worse yet he has externalized that hatred and projected it upon other gay people around him. I have actually gotten into some pretty vicious fights with him over this, but I have never actually outed him. I hope someday he finds peace, but I honestly don't ever see that day coming. 
I should add that his parents are good people, just very conservative and traditional. This isn't some example of the parents being rabid bigots and drilling that mentality in to their child, but rather a story of just how hard it can be for some to overcome the ideas they internalized as children as to what is normal and acceptable behavior in this world and how damaging it is to someone who just naturally does not fit within that model of what they were taught was "right."
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