//But again, I don't see male-gazed yuri hentai as a bad thing, but rather as something that a lot of cis men think it's how wlw sex works 100% of the times.//
Reminds me of the difference between the movies Blue is The Warmest Color and Portrait of a Lady on Fire.
Lesbian here. To be fair, we get wlw sex wrong sometimes in real-life as well because we automatically think that just cuz we're women, we know 100% what makes women go crazy in bed. Sometimes, it's not just a problem of cismen.