Realistically though people would normally be over it after 7 years especially when they had just barely gotten together so there's likely much more to it than this.
"Realistically" is doing some heavy lifting. Neither Koto or Erika have grown out of their childhood crushes after 7 years. At least Koto tried dating other people but it's strange she couldn't find anyone that'd make her move on from the girl in middle school she briefly dated.
Most people will find they're very different person at 21 than they were at 14 and that they want and expect different things in a romantic partner. "Realistically", Koto would find it increasingly difficult to see a 14 year old Aya as a possible romantic partner because the difference in life experience and maturity are just too great.
So I suppose Aya's running away to Erika's place? She showed a bit of fondness towards her this chapter for helping her get a chance to act again. Wouldn't it become a dramatic triangle if Aya started crushing on Erika instead? I'll be rooting for that chaos (mainly because I'm rooting against a possible het ship between Aya and her coworker/study buddy).
Sometimes it doesn't happen that way. Koto is very likely neurodivergent in some way or another, and given Aya is someone she idealized to an unhealthy degree already, if she has certain neurotypes (borderline personality disorder, etc), it's easy to imagine Aya having become her FP. It's not easy to move on from someone who slots into your brain like that, and you can't just replace them with someone who doesn't scratch your brain in a similar way—which is an explanation as to why she never had a "normal" relationship that felt like it lived up to the feelings of recognition she got from her idealized person paying attention to her.
To imagine, then, that same person reappearing seven years later, exactly the same as they were... only this time, the power dynamic is slanted entirely in Koto's favor, it's very easy to imagine why it'd be a recipe for abuse. Even if she doesn't have BPD, Koto has a number of traumas and brain problems. and they're clearly untreated.