I would really like my life partner to trust me enough to let me have some sort of marking like this on them, so I totally understand how it flipped a switch when she revealed that not only was she okay with it, she wanted it. The ear bite was probably not that bad if that kind of bandage was the only thing necessary. I didn't really get the toxic vibe tbh. It seems more like these two people would end up in a mutually beneficial type of thing.