really honestly i had assumed that most of the people demanding less men in yuri, were men. lol. like, the general overtones of purity and infantilization that you see in yuri is not something actual queer women would apply to themselves. and i thought that dudes were the ones that would get most threatened by other dudes (within the content they consume, esp straight guys who move from het to primarily yuri, like...really...what do you think they're here for..). esp because with queer girls you get so used to being disappointed by the content marketed as yuri that you start looking for subtext in normal media, which is saturated with dudes, so u get to create the narrative that will satisfy you the most. like, people find yuri in haikyuu, free, literally everywhere - if you want it you get used to working around guys, they are not that scary. its not so much that i want men to be love interests, or that im particularly interested in love triangle related drama, because wow that is so tired, but that any male character is seen as a romantic threat (because ofc ~why would she be attracted to that other girl if theres a viable male right there~) is annoying lol. and reading comments from people freaking out is annoying. also it seems like ssamba is setting up a sexuality debate w/in the story, because kim gyeong-woo and kim no-rae are obvious mirrors of each other - they even have the same last name - so i wouldn't be surprised if there was a brief plot where seol-a decides to date him (being the 'male ver') b4 realizing shes thirsty for no-rae exclusively, and if it happens there will be capslock everywhere lol. i guess another reason why im not too concerned is that i just get the feeling ssamba is pretty trustworthy.
the debate on realism is pretty baffling to me, because as long as the characters are behaving in a believably human, realistic way, in all other parts of the narrative realism depends on context. i dont think it would be possible to impose universality on it one way or the other, because invariably you end up delegitimatizing someone else's experiences. its pretty interesting to think about, though.