He did work hard to get her forgiveness. Have you ever learned sign language? Do you know how hard it is. The above person also pointed out that he considered killing himself after apologizing. It is a stupid move but it shows how sincere he is. He tried reaching out for her and actually made the effort to do so.
Nishimiya has always been like that, a forgiving person. You can see from chapter 11. If you question about the forgiven personality, there are many people like that around the world. They forgive and forget. Both of them are slowly becoming friends. The relationship part hasn't started yet but as a fan, I can always dream and wish for that.
I guess I just don't think learning a new language and sincerely apologizing somehow absolves you of every horrible thing you did and that Shouko's utter lack of reaction and malice to a horrible human being just irks me. Someone so passive that they never hold a grudge against their abusers, who forgives them for everything they do, comes across as the kind of person who winds up stuck in an abusive relationship; it's not a commendable trait, it's a personal failing. That's probably one of the reasons why her mother and sister are so aggressively overprotective, because she obviously won't fend for herself and that's incredibly dangerous.
Well Shouko's mother has refused to learn how to communicate with her for one, as shown in various examples - the fact that she resorts to shouting at her to return to the car, the fact that she tells Yuzuru to tell Shouko something instead of telling Shouko herself. She's protective sure, but she's regarding Shouko as an invalid who she cannot even communicate with. In short, from what we've seen her mother treats her as more of a burden than a daughter, something which 6th grade Shouko obviously internalized - as evidenced by the constant "I'm sorry" statements in her communication book and just smiling and taking the abuse that was happening to her.
"Refused to learn how to communicate" is assuming that Shouko's mother has the time to learn how to communicate. I mean sure, she probably could put in the effort to learn sign language, but she seems to be a single mother raising two girls who are sent to a special school in a somewhat well-off lifestyle, which sounds like it'd keep her rather busy at work. Not to mention that Shouko is able to hear people when using her hearing aids, which likely allows hearing and writing to compensate for communication.
It also explains why she might yell at her daughter; she's either having problems with her hearing aids or is being disobedient, and why she would have Yuzuru talk to her sister after getting out of the bath, when her hearing aids were probably taken out.
As for treating her like an invalid, she is an invalid. Everything we see of the few sparse moments is her trying to make Shouko's bad situation better. She tries to make her at least look assertive by getting a masculine haircut because being incredibly passive (and looking it) has obviously caused problems. She enrolls her in a special school to get her away from the abuse. From several scenes and flashbacks we see that she is fine with her children walking around on their own, which isn't exactly something an overbearing parent does.
To say that she is the one who caused Shouko's mental state is bit lacking in anything even resembling proof; she's overprotective of her constantly abused daughter and has yet to mistreat her. Beyond not learning a brand new language, something that's incredibly difficult for an adult to do, she's yet to do anything damning. That's not to say that she's perfect (which is actually more reason to like her) or that she's not the cause of Shouko's personality, because all parents do influence their children, but things like temperament and some aspects of development can't just be thrown at the parent's feet.
It's the fact that he took the time to learn communicate with her on her own terms (in fact going far beyond what was needed for an apology - he is quite fluent after all), and the fact that he is remorseful of his past actions, and is putting forth an effort to understand her now, that prompted Shouko to give him a second chance.
The thing is, he probably could have walked up to her, punched her in the face, stolen everything she owned, and beat her sister and she probably would have just sat there, took it, and smiled with some attempt at taking the blows meant for Yuzuru. She's already done it during her own abuse and the abuse of her sister, and has only ever gotten angry when her sister dared to not forgive someone who might not deserve it, so there's no reason to assume she'd react differently. That's why it all comes across as hollow to me, because he didn't have to do anything to earn forgiveness, he just inherently got it because she's just so damn submissive and nice.
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