I'm mostly okay with some other tropes, it takes a lot to for me to be bothered by stuff.
However, I'd say what really gets under my skin are: "bury the gays" trope (mostly happens in het stories with gay side characters), slapstick gays (their romantic inklings to any character is a joke butt, played for laughs), childhood trauma as reason why one is gay or engages in lesbian affairs, and straight men as "the enemy" of lesbian relationships.
I'd say I'm glad that such tropes have been fading away into non-existence as time goes by.
As for Yuri, I haven't been way too deep in the Yuri world to be honest, to make judgments about the genre's straight authors. From what I gander, most use nom de plume for their work so it's really hard for me to say if they are 'straight' or something else, unless they explicitly say. But since we're talking about literary fiction in general, I would say it's safe to bet even queer authors could get it wrong sometimes.