It’s crazy how quick people are to label a woman as a villain for having a messy relationship. The possibility of a sort of psuedo beard type relationship with her husband is tantalizing, but seems unlikely. Ema was in love with Takara as a kid but got abandoned out of nowhere during a time when she was the only person who Ema could open up to, which left her alone and adrift while dealing with her shit mom.
Hario comes into the picture as someone who is kind to her and willing to support her, and he offers her a way away from her horrible mom and is able to “protect” her from her mom in some ways. They got married when they graduated college and then there was a decade or more until she reunited with Takara. Even if she’s a lesbian who never felt love for Hario, they still have a decade of marriage together and that whole time presumably he was her support to stand against her mom and have freedom.
Of course she’s still relying on him while also behaving ambiguously with Takara! She’s got basically no fucking support network outside of her husband, and now suddenly her childhood friend who she’s in love with too! Clearly she’s still not in a place where she can just say “I’m gonna change everything around me and leave behind the husband who cherishes me and who I’ve become dependant on for the last decade”. That’s not how any of this works.
And to put it in simple terms, none of this is her fault, she did the best she could in the situations she was forced into, and it just so happens that she’s gotten into a really difficult set of relationships because of it.
