You need to be able to tell fantasy from reality. And accept that you enjoy things in fantasy that you wouldn't enjoy in reality. Peepz in Japan are very good at doing this; peepz in the West... not so much.
It's crazy annoying when dumb people campaign against games or comics or tv series because at some point something happens, something usually sex-related, that would be wrong if it happened in real life. In Japan, such stuff doesn't even raise a blip on the radar.
Considering some of the controversies with people being "betrayed" by idols in Japan, I would argue both have people with reality issues.
But you'll notice that in Japan they don't blame the idols and there are no crusades for their banning.
Also comes with some words of wisdom for this thread. :P
Words of wisdom indeed. Noice! XD
Third, a helluva lot of yaoi works are considered to be explorations of lesbian feelings and lesbian relationships genderbended as gay boy stories -- yuri in disguise, we would say today. Take at look at this recent manga by Yatosaki Haru to see a good example of the notion.
Hehehe, Yatosaki-sama sure had fun dancing on the "Is it yuri? Is it BL?" blurry border, didn't she? I guess we've reached the point where even the authoresses themselves feel playful about it.
Srsly, in our yuri-blessed day and age, it's impossible to read classics like "The Heart of Thomas" or "Kaze to Ki no Uta" and not realize that those mcs are totally girls pretending to be boys. (♡ω♡ ) ~♪