By healthier, you mean not jumping to conclusions? Giving a benefit of the doubt?
Both of those, yes. Particularly in cases where the "offending" post is rather minimalist and might be bait.
Phrase "who's guy in relationship" ...
A person's perception and/or rationalization of said perception does not force any role upon another. We ultimately do not get to dictate how others perceive us, try as we might.
As for the topic of the thread, since you've touched upon it here, I assume that it's in large part a case of "art imitates life". A distribution of roles (active/passive, giving/receiving, top/bottom, call it what you will) in bed is probably a common occurrence when two people with differing personalities get it on (repeatedly). It doesn't have to be nearly as rigid as for example in the much lauded So, Do You Want To Go Out, Or? (where there seems to be a pathological cause for its rigor), but I'd be surprised if it wasn't common even in homosexual relationships. Thing is: I don't know that, just as I don't know how common rigid roles actually are in straight relationships. I'd only be extrapolating from a) my own experience with all of [one] partners, and b) what I see in het media that "go there" (mostly porn, obviously).
Are there any scientific studies or decent investigations into the topic?
While it's true, especially for dude, ...
Being German (a prime example for a language full of gendered words), having a degree in English linguistics and having grown up as the son of a sociology/gender studies lecturer, I do have my own, rather informed opinion on topics of language and gender, but this is certainly not the time and place to debate that.
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