No, not yet. Her life has been like that since 10 years ago. If she lets go of Sumin now, then every thing she's done for Sumin as well as her 10 years of waiting for Sumin would all turn in vain. Nami told her that she was like Sumin's dog long time ago, it's not new. She feels like she has no one cuz she actually doesn't have anyone. Does she neccessarily need to let go of the one she love in order for her to realize that she deserves better? What if after letting go of Sumin, she realizes nothing? What if she doesn't fall in love with anyone after that?
It's not about whether all these years will go to waste. I see it on the opposite side of the spectrum, that the longer she holds on to Sumin, the more she loses. She won't get Sumin back, they both know it. She just stays in that situation with the hope, bur the reality is different. She just tries to avoid the inevitable for as long as possible. At least if she moves on from Sumin on her own, she still has her integrity left, versus when Sumin will decide to call it ends for good.
If she never finds anyone like Sumin, she still has nothing to lose. Because Sumin won't go back to her anyway. If she never falls in love again, that's ok too. She can find other stuff to do with her life instead of putting all of her worth in falling in love with a certain person.
That's why in situations like this, therapists say that the person should get an interest to themselves and do stuff for them. Because these type of relationships are codependent, meaning the person can't function without their partner, which is unhealthy.
And I do believe that if she actively decides to move on from Sumin, eventually she will be able to like someone else. Maybe that will even take her years, but it's possible.
I just think it's wiser to know when to quit, instead of pushing until the very end.
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