Page 17 stings. I've had relationships end because my partner wanted sex and I didn't. Not even that I told them no; even after considering doing it to make them happy, just my lack of interest was enough for them to break up with me.
This. It's either people think you don't love them or they break up because they're unsatisfied, even if you do have sex for their sake. At some point, you just kind of give up.
(Right now, either I date someone on the ace spectrum, or I'll just flat out not date anyone again. I don't have the patience to go through all that stuff with allo people again)
Agreed. I'm ace, but not aro. (The concept of me having sex with someone else is like watching paint dry. And while I've read porn - or at least, works with explicit sex scenes; I don't like anything that's nothing but sex - I invariably rush through or skip the sex scenes. First four pages and last four pages are usually "the interesting parts" to me.)
Well, isn't that me skipping through 90% of the stuff here because I want to know whether Asumi is going to find her childhood friend and the sex scenes are basically filler.
Nothing pisses me off faster than someone implying our relationship somehow doesn't count just because we aren't having sex.
So basically they're telling you that the only thing that matters for them in a relationship is sex. That's how little they value their partner.
...Didn't mean for this to turn into a blog post, but I'm feeling emotional and my fingers just wouldn't stop typing.
Please do talk. I'm feeling understood and that's not something I get everyday.
