he's probably taking a progressive rather than revolutionary position on social change, meaning you're more likely to disagree on his approach to solving social justice problems rather than his being transphobic in this specific instance.
Agreed, that’s why I never actually accused them of transphobia, just of being wrong.
I'd probably argue that Dynasty's at a trans-tolerant enough point that it'd be hard to bring it to a more tolerant position without certain structural …. Problem with that is you'd have a slim chance of getting the trans people around here to agree on some of those topics, let alone everyone else...
Hah, that's regrettably true, although being a radical rather than a progressive, I do not especially care for tolerance. But yeah, we're on the same page with regard to the need, however idealistic, for structural changes. And while everyone waits for that, there's still enough explicitly anti-trans voices on the site to keep even tolerance at bay - and yep, the community is good at standing up to outright garbage, but things get less friendly the minute the conversation starts drifting away from popular ally metaphors and arguments.
Actions and mindsets that directly remove yourself from conversations because it's "not my place" only serve to create rifts. I'm not really sure I can rectify this paragraph with the previous one other than by taking the progressive stance of, "let people bicker with each other and it'll work itself out."
Yeah, I get that. But I don't think the OP was the one creating the rift. They were just tired of suffering within it. And that’s fine.