I don't get the whole rape being attractive thing. A woman struggling and saying no is pretty gross/scary.
:D :D In that case I have raped few girls by now (and I am a girl too). :D :D
Girls can rape, you know. It's hardly unheard of.
And given how many people don't seem to understand the concept of consent, and the popular myth that rape involves a scary stranger dragging women into an alley, it's actually possible for people to rape but believe they didn't do anything wrong. So yeah, if you've had sex with someone saying "no" to you, or only saying "yes" because they're really drunk, then you might have.
Now this particular story could be different though, since as has already been mentioned it's customary in Japan, or at least Japanese fiction/porn, to have some token resistance before going ahead with sex. Hell, look at all the stuff that uses "I'm so embarrassed" as a stock phrase to indicate that sex is happening. And of course, the story is already set up as something that doesn't really happen in real life so at least you've got a little separation there.
Well, I sometimes sleep with girls that say no (usually if I know them very well and I am aware that they really want me), but I never sleep with drunk girls who I don't know very well because I don't want them to regret it in the morning. :) And I am also into BDSM and as such a person I am really very careful about consent. :) Because in my heart I am a "gentleman". :D :D And of course I know a girl can rape a girl but I don't think it's very common.
Rape in the queer community is more common than I think you realize.
I think that this notion of "no" being foreplay is a facet of rape culture. Coercing someone (which is what is happening in this manga) is anything but healthy consent. Last I checked Japan was a patriarchal society. Women can and are complicit in their own oppression, it is a component of their oppression. It would not surprise me that women anywhere in the world do say "no" as foreplay, but I do believe it is the duty of partners to have clear consent.
I get that this is fiction, but media matters, as is evidenced by the commenters who do not seem to understand consent. This kind of media reinforces really detrimental stereotypes/behaviours and I personally am tired of seeing this as a trope. And this isn't just a japanese thing, as Hana said, people all over the world definitely believe rape is a violent encounter with a stranger and the majority of the time that is not the case.
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