So, I think it's best we don't talk about "moral responsibility"...because truthfully, I would say that given Kashiwa's situation, and the expectations and obligations it involves, the "moral" thing to be doing is quite different from the direction of the resolution the story gave to us. That too is understandable, though. In both cases, the "moral" thing is not what's being looked toward to give them happiness as human beings. It very often isn't, I think.
Wait...so what should be the so-called "moral" thing for Kashiwa to do? You're not clear on this point at all.
The "moral" thing would be to not transition, to put the huge amounts of money and effort that endeavor would take into assuring her younger sisters' future. As a transgendered person myself, one who had far less constraints and obligations in my youth than Kashiwa has, it was still impossible for me for numerous reasons: financial and family instability, lack of support, psychiatric gatekeepers who were completely untrained and unsympathetic to the nuances of the situation. It would've been irresponsible of me to have attempted it, and so although I had been on the path for several years in my early 20's, I gave up just before the point of no return (hormones).
Of course, this is the kind of morality argument that can spiral endlessly based on just how stringent you want to be, e.g. "why didn't you donate the money you spent on the computer you're using now to charity? Why don't you donate everything you have to charity and live as an ascetic?" and so on. These kinds of debates are totally divorced from realistic human circumstances and nature. Whether that makes them any less valid is something everyone must wrestle with for themselves.
So as I say, I think it's fine that Kashiwa is not pursuing the "moral" choice, but the one that may lead to happiness - for Kashiwa at least. One of the greatest truisms that struck me with this manga is when Kasumi said, in effect, "Nobody significant to your life is ever really going to be pleased by what you're choosing to do."
Kasumi was, throughout the manga, a very honest person, and I love her for that. She never pretended that she felt prepared to continue to love Kashiwa in the same way as she would a man, and always answered Kashiwa's uncertainties realistically and truthfully. Frankly, I don't see a long-term future for them, but the fact that she is still trying to see a way makes her a wonderful person. She at least is certainly a person who is trying to put someone else's happiness above her own. How long that can continue without negative repercussions, who can say.
Personal meditations on the sexual/genital questions raised earlier in the thread follow, for those interested. I have spoilered in the interest of those who are not.
Actually there are really no graphic details to be revealed here, because it's frankly impossible. Even attempting a relationship in this body would be selfish and deceitful, and sexuality utterly revolting. I've always felt so since I came to realize what I was. There is no less erotic thought possible than the thought of this body being involved in...anything. Not only for me, but the idea that it would have to be pushed on someone else, to ask them to endure this husk...I'd rather die, frankly. Kashiwa's feelings of self-loathing with regard to this were again realistic, but only a much diluted form of my own. However, this does not mean I don't feel sexual desire, or that I don't gratify that desire. It's bearable as long as no one else has to be involved and I don't have to see myself doing it, which - mercy of mercies - I don't.
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