And aw that sounds cute :) horror movies are a no no for me x_x / shudders /
If my SO forces me to watch horror movies with them.. o lord. Azai .. waifu.. dont do that to me okay? XDD.

Lol. Me? Horror movies ?! No fucking way !! I won't sleep at night. DX

High five waifuu high five!~ ^ ^

High five!!
#TeamBedwetters (⌐■_■)

I like horror stuff... >.> I like survival horror games >.>

I don't enjoy horror stuff, but I've been told I'm boring and emotionless because I don't scream like a little girl when I'm scared shitless.

Leave the thread for a day and my understudy is wetting the bed?... shame on all of you.

So last night kanojo and I went out for drinks with some friends and her ex (who I've never met before this) was in town and at the bar we went to. Turns out my girlfriend once dated the much hotter gay twin of Victoria Beckham. I mean this woman was ridiculously attractive. I don't think I've ever been in awe of an SO's ex before, but she was one hell of a specimen. I asked kanojo later that night to remind me why she broke up with Victoria Beckham's hotter gay twin who's nice and seems like a well-adjusted human being to date me, and all her response was to smile and say "you're cute". -_- / sigh /

As far as I know, she doesn't have to work on weekends and holidays at all, but she still does "inofficially" (meaning she doesn't write down those hours in her monthly working hour log, since the youth welfare office in Germany actually makes its workers pay fines if they work overtime too much.) She usually spends Saturdays driving through the city from morning til evening, checking on her street kids and everyone else she's got under her wing for at least an hour or 2. I think it's awesome how she genuinely cares about those teens like that. ^^ Her dedication is one of the main things I admire about her.

That's awesome :) Though I hope she's back by now.

I'm going to go play basketball for a bit, but I might be on for a bit later. Not sure though, kanojo wants to go out for a walk and then she's painting her toenails and then she wants to go for a walk and then she's eating lunch and then she wants to go for a walk and then turns on the music and it's dance party time and then she wants to go for a walk and I need to leave for basketball... women -_-

Maybe try to convince her to try nordic walking if she wants to walk a lot? At least that way you'll have something to laugh at. XD (I dunno, I think it just looks hilarious when people walk around with those sticks.) Anyway, have fun, hang in there and see you later...maybe. XD

I was writing in a hurry so maybe it came across wrong. I meant that she kept saying she wanted to go for a walk, and then would go do something else, over and over again xD Basketball was nice and then we went for a walk finally lol... She's getting the water going in the hot tub so I have to scram again soon.

X'D Happened before in another forum as well. I repeated something someone else said, going "I know I said it before, but blah blah blah" and then the guy showed up and said "Dude, I said that first!" XD It's kinda weird. When I read chat conversations of forums I'm part of and some quote gets stuck in my mind, my brain will sometimes think that I was the one who came up with it. Also happens in real life sometimes, like when I remember an argument with someone. One time, my sister and me got really lost when we wanted to visit our aunt and uncle. We tried to avoid a traffic jam on the highway and took a detour and ended up in the middle of fucking nowhere, so we were forced to stay the night in a motel. XD So while we were lying there in our beds, trying to fall asleep, I suddenly went "We should've just done what I said and taken the damn train." And she just answers "Su, that's what I said" in that completely flat tone. XD IDK how it happens, but it does.

Lol plagiarism :P

I think she would've answered if she were stuck in traffic. :/ Her putting her phone on silent mode and ignoring it for hours usually only happens when one of her kids barges in with some sort of emergency and she needs to focus on taking care of them or comforting them. If that's the case, I hope it's nothing too bad. :/

Oh I see :( Busy lady. Does she have to work weekends a lot?

I'm going to go play basketball for a bit, but I might be on for a bit later. Not sure though, kanojo wants to go out for a walk and then she's painting her toenails and then she wants to go for a walk and then she's eating lunch and then she wants to go for a walk and then turns on the music and it's dance party time and then she wants to go for a walk and I need to leave for basketball... women -_-

And Sungji is the cutest and the funniest :P That is all.

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Yeah I'm still on the don't give a fuck about Sumin train right now. Pretty much every non-Sungji character I just don't care about seeing lol... I'm ready for the "Sungji adorably reads the phone book" chapter. I'd buy it. Sumin was really a lot of people's favorite character for the longest time (several saying they just wanted a happy ending for her and the rest didn't matter), but I think recent stuff with Seju has tempered that sentiment.

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Lol / pokes Su /

bites Dofu's finger Grrr....

Oh honey, there's only one woman in my life who gets my fingers in her mouth

Should've seen that coming >< XD

Lol at least you understand that you had it coming :P

I'm aware I'm repeating myself, but whatever: #TeamShamelessLeader XD

Lol I thought that was the other half of Sulin that said that. One mind :P

Meh. Lin should've been home about 2 hours ago and she's not answering her phone. Wonder what's going on. o.o;

Hope it's just Berlin traffic :(

Dayum.. xD

Hey Newp :P

Lol / pokes Su /

bites Dofu's finger Grrr....

Oh honey, there's only one woman in my life who gets my fingers in her mouth

Should've seen that coming >< XD

Lol at least you understand that you had it coming :P

Lol / pokes Su /

bites Dofu's finger Grrr....

Oh honey, there's only one woman in my life who gets my fingers in her mouth

will just continue following your convo like a creeper as I have nothing more to add or say o.o

Lol / pokes Su /

Sad thing about your friend. Shutting down love life because of that is just too painful.

Yeah I'm not saying people can't be happy single, but I don't get the impression that's why she doesn't go out of her way to meet people. Maybe I can discretely float a nice Jewish lesbian into her life... somehow.

I have a male friend who is gay, but hasn't come out to his parents. He has it very hard. His parents are very religious and don't accept queer people at all. I'm glad that he still manages to have a love life, but I can feel something is not right. It's like he keeps a lot inside, and his love life is a mess. Sometimes I'm afraid of what he might do.

I don't know how many times I've heard a story like that by now, but it's far too many. A friend of mine is the son of a minister, and he just loves sex... so much... If you could be extra bisexual, he's the most bisexual person I've ever met. Screwing boys all over town, getting pegged by every willing lady he can find. He has a beard and his dad thinks he's been in a long term relationship with a woman and has noooo idea about any of it. I think he's wanted to drop the facade for a long time and at least tell his dad that he's not in a monogamous relationship and doesn't intend to be, but he doesn't know how to and feels like he's just digging himself deeper day by day. For sure hiding things does terrible stuff for people's self-esteem and that negativity propagates itself through many parts of their lives. / Sigh /

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Around 3 years ago. My parents aren't that conservative. Like I knew they kind of respected lgbt, but I also knew it was good as far as their daughter wasn't one.. So when I came out it was an ugly thing to see. But as you said, that's like the only bomb I ever dropped on them, so I think they just shrugged it off at some point. Sometimes, they still bug me a little, but it's a minor issue.

I see, yeah, that's the case more often than you'd think. People often think they're fine with something but then if their own kid does it then it's a different story. I guess the opposite is true though also, that there are a lot of people who are conservative about lgbt issues, and then they find out their own flesh and blood is gay and their opinions turn around.

I have a friend from high school who I'm almost completely convinced is gay, and her parents have always been really nice and supportive to me, but I think if she came out to them it would be a completely different story. I try to leave the door open for her to talk to me about it, but I think she's closed off the whole idea of any sort of love life. I don't have a lot of friends like her and am the opposite a prude, so maybe I'm just the wrong person for her to open up to :(

Yeah, tofu-san, I relate to that pretty well. Obedience and respect are such a big deal in our culture. I put a lot of thoughts before coming out to my parents, since I knew drama would happen; but I'm very attached to them too, so hiding such a big part of my life was just unbearable. Glad that things are getting better.

Glad they're getting better, too. How long ago was that for you? It's sort of amazing that a kid could be obedient and respectful in every aspect of their life, be successful in school and training to be a doctor (the Asian parent dream come true), but you drop the queer bomb on them and they'll go nuts...

Funny, how fathers are often the ones who have a hard time accepting that their daughter is a lesbian.

I haven't talked to my father for years. I made an effort at some point at Christmas to go and see him, but it always ended badly, so, I'm done with his shit. But thanks to their divorce, I can still go see my mum and she's a whole lot more supportive (even though she worries a lot).

If someone's that unwilling to accept who you are, they're hardly family at that point. If you make an effort to reach out and it's getting nowhere, then the rest is on him. Sorry to hear that though; it's hard no matter what. I'm glad your mom is supportive though :) Depending on where you are, she has may have reason for concern. My mom used to check up on me, making sure I wasn't experiencing direct negativity from anybody or potentially getting bullied in college. She didn't know how liberal of an area I was in lol. Even so it made me feel supported and taken care of.

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Oops, sorry Su, fell asleep for a little bit again :)

Yeah, she told me she came ranting to you guys in the middle of the night after she met him at the hospital. I screamed at him until my throat was sore when he came visiting me after she told me. The nurses actually had to get him out of the room cause they thought I was gonna attack him or suffer a heart attack or something. ^^;

Lol both scary and great.

Yeah, I think so as well. My mother says ever since our little fallout in the hospital, he's been asking her tons of questions. Things like "how do you think people turn homosexual? Or is it just something you're born with?" or "Why would you wanna be with someone if you can't have a family with them? I mean, isn't wanting to have a family the reason why you marry in the first place?" He's actually asking for her opinion, that's how I know he's getting there. But he's extremely thick-skulled as well, so time really is the key factor. -.- Though my heart really goes out to those people, who have their entire family against them. Nobody deserves to live through that kind of shit. :/

He clearly still loves you and wasn't running for the hills/disowning you after your spat with him, so he'll come around. Eventually... "turn homosexual" / eye roll /

Obedience is such a deep part of our culture, so if they had been really negative about my coming out I think it would have been a really difficult process for me.

Difficult in which way? Do you think you might have reconsidered your choices if they told you they don't approve? Not judging, just curious. o.o

I probably would have reconsidered how openly I chose to live my life, and for someone like me that would have taken its toll. Maybe by the time I was my age now, I would have been over it and just lived my life, but I've always been a bit of a pushover when it comes to my parents. It's probably good that I don't live close to them :| Staying closeted to my parents and out (to some degree) in the rest of my life would have been just as bad. I tell them pretty much everything and have always been attached to both of them.

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It's actually not as uncommon of a surname as it should be, so I'm not that surprised a city was named that at some point lol xD

Are you serious? OMG, that is just fucking awesome. XD If I had to address someone as "Mister Gaylord" and keep a straight face, I would fail so epicly. X'D

Lol I guess you haven't seen Meet the Fockers. Really dumb but funny movie. The main character's real name is Gaylord Focker, but he goes by Greg haha... so I guess it can be a first name or a surname.

I came out to them over a decade ago so the dating a woman thing isn't news to them. They'd met a couple of my more serious girlfriends before kanojo and didn't like one at all and liked the other but not as my girlfriend (my best friend). And by they I mean my mom, because my dad mostly keeps his opinions to himself unless I ask. They really love kanojo though. She's very chatty with me but around most people she's more the quiet diligent type; pretty, rich, hard-working, roots for the Warriors, and always brings a gift... goes over really well with Asian parents lol... they don't know what she does to me in the bedroom, thankfully.

sigh I wish my dad was like that. -.- As much as I love him, but he has some pretty fucked up opinions on homosexuality. He always thought that since I'm bi, me introducing girls to him never really had any meaning and I would choose to "listen to my common sense" and settle down with a nice man in the end. When I told him that I fully plan on marrying Lin, he just went batshit bananas. For some reason, he hates the entire idea of her and it drives me up the wall. The rest of my family is either being supportive or they understand to not stick their noses where they don't belong. But my dad's a whole different story. slams forehead against wall He'll come around eventually. I know he will. It's just gonna be a loooong way until he gets there.

Yeah after an anecdote from Lin I got that impression so I didn't want to pry even after you had asked me about my parents. It's disappointing to have people that you care about and respect completely not understand a part of your life, but on the plus side, a good bit of the rest of your family is supportive. The families where almost everyone, both parents in particular, are bigoted are the ones where it gets really problematic. If your dad's around others who are accepting then there's more potential for it to be like water over a coarse stone; he'll smooth out over time. I'm just very lucky with my parents. Obedience is such a deep part of our culture, so if they had been really negative about my coming out I think it would have been a really difficult process for me.

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Nice to hear it... that day gonna be yr reborn day... If you re close to me, i guess i will ask u to teach me how to use a knife in a fight. who knows i will need it someday... well, although its not as interesting as learning to peel apples by using cleaver from fried tofu san...

Like this, except with a cleaver instead of a sushi knife, and I could never go that insanely fast lol
https://youtu.be/nzQDWAaxjGs

And whoever gave that name to the city, i guess he/she has same strange taste of naming sth with u.... xD
thats why you re not surprised, right?

Lol I'm sure it was named after someone named ___ Gaylord.

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Random: I just found out there's a town in Michigan called Gaylord. So I started googling funny town names and I'm dying of laughter. X'D

It's actually not as uncommon of a surname as it should be, so I'm not that surprised a city was named that at some point lol xD

Damn. Should have told you she calls me perviest tofu in the whole wide world.

One problem: I would've never bought that. XD

:((((( Why not? I'm the least sarcastic person ever.

That's actually the plan. XD Not the MMA, since that really is a bit too brutal for my tastes, but I'm definitely gonna pick up kickboxing and volleyball again and then I'll royally kick my sister's ass! >:D

Lol I sense a rivalry xD good for you.

XD So how did your parents react when you introduced kanojo to them?

I came out to them over a decade ago so the dating a woman thing isn't news to them. They'd met a couple of my more serious girlfriends before kanojo and didn't like one at all and liked the other but not as my girlfriend (my best friend). And by they I mean my mom, because my dad mostly keeps his opinions to himself unless I ask. They really love kanojo though. She's very chatty with me but around most people she's more the quiet diligent type; pretty, rich, hard-working, roots for the Warriors, and always brings a gift... goes over really well with Asian parents lol... they don't know what she does to me in the bedroom, thankfully.

Lol calling you honeybee from now on :> Or cutieSutie.

Oh gawd, please don't. DX

When she's had a couple glasses of wine she calls me babycakes or banana (I like bananas when I'm drunk), both of which I find horrible.

That's kinda awesome. XD ... If you start calling me CutieSutie, I'll start calling you BabyBanana. >:D

Damn. Should have told you she calls me perviest tofu in the whole wide world.

You train in knife fighting o_o'?

Yup. My dad trained me starting when I was 15/16ish. ^^ He trained me and all of my siblings in kickboxing before, cause Berlin can be a pretty dangerous place to live and he insisted every one of us learns how to defend themselves. But when my heart decided to be a bitch and not continue growing to support my quickly growing body, I had to quit kickboxing training, since it put way too much strain on me. So one day, my dad brought home an army survival knife for me (he's in the airforce) and told me he'd train me how to knife fight instead.

Hardcore o_o'. Maybe after the new heart you can start up kickboxing again :) kickboxing knife fighter... maybe just take up MMA, that's pretty gruesome.

I see Lin thinking that's as an extremely attractive quality in a partner lmao...

Not really. XD She thinks in a city like Berlin, it's pretty normal for people to know how to defend themselves in a way. sighs She's hard to impress. :T

Lol well if she's too easy I guess that spoils the fun

I can peel the skin off an apple with a cleaver if that's the only sharp knife around lol.

o.o...If I'd actually see you doing that, I think I'd just silently back out of the room and make sure I arm myself for when you suddenly decide to turn psycho or something. XD But really though, that's pretty cool. You must have pretty dextrous hands. I'm pretty good at carving, but I don't think I could peel an apple with something that has a blade longer than 6 inches without completely ruining the fruit in the process. XD

Again I think it's just part of the whole my-parents-raised-me-to-be-a-proper-Chinese-housewife thing (under the guise of me needing to know how to take care of myself). I learned most of my mom's food repertoire before I graduated high school. My parents are like 4 parts very progressive, 1 part still really traditional. Though my mom did tell me as a teenager that the first thing I should make clear to a boyfriend (hadn't come out at that point) was that I knew how to use "these" and pointed to a cleaver and a pair of kitchen scissors. I don't know how kidding she was...

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Love muffin is probably a better option than some of the other things I've been conditioned to respond to :|

I feel ya. -.- Lin tried to make me respond to "honeybee" and "cutie" in the first months of our relationship. Thankfully, I got her to drop it pretty quickly though.

Lol calling you honeybee from now on :> Or cutieSutie. I'm apparently really good at making myself laugh at 3 in the morning. Kanojo just calls me babe 90% of the time. It's just the other 10% that's worrisome lol. When she's had a couple glasses of wine she calls me babycakes or banana (I like bananas when I'm drunk), both of which I find horrible.

I guess that's what knife fighting training does to you. Every time you see a blade, you immediately want to draw your own. XD But seriously, some of the blades of our kitchen knives are longer than my fighting knife's. If that doesn't categorize them as weapons, I don't know what does, lol. Only half joking though. Srsly, why do kitchen knives for cutting meat and herbs and cheese and stuff have to be such fucking swords? DX

You train in knife fighting o_o'? I see Lin thinking that's an extremely attractive quality in a partner lmao... And I don't know why they have to be so big, but I like large knives. Chinese upbringing... I can peel the skin off an apple with a cleaver if that's the only sharp knife around lol.

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You're supposed to come up with another rhyme! Kanojo usually says "Nothin', love muffin" :P

I suck at rhyming though. :T But "love muffin" sounds like an awesome nickname, lol.

Well she only uses that for the rhyme. Love muffin is probably a better option than some of the other things I've been conditioned to respond to :|

Also admiring this magnetic strip kanojo installed in the kitchen that all the knives attach to. I didn't even know knives were magnetic. It's nicer than trying to find a block that has the right size spaces for everything.

We have that thing as well. >< I don't really like it, to be perfectly honest. I mean, look:

http://img5.fotos-hochladen.net/uploads/thosedamnkniv8nqi9ckleg.jpg

Our kitchen would look perfectly normal and peaceful if it weren't for this line of unsheated weapons hanging on the wall like some kind of silent threat. DX Idk, it just makes me nervous. But out of the 2 of us, Lin makes the most meals and she likes that thing for the same reason that you like it, so I'm not saying anything. I really would prefer a block though. :T

Lol @ "weapons". I guess they could be in a pinch. Better behave, Su :P

On that note, I'm going to verbally pout until this woman I made dinner for gets her ass on the train home ...

Awww. That's sweet !! Can I have a taste of whatever you made for dinner ?? Pleaaase ?? XD

If she doesn't get her ass here soon you can have whatever the fuck you want lol -_-

Pretty sure you're gonna eat her instead when she gets home late lol

I might have to borrow the Draglin. Well she's finally on the damn train. Going to get the water for the gnocchi going. You ladies have a lovely evening.

Is anyone on this thread actually going out with each other now lol (Other than Sulin)? I'm highly skeptical of online dating but maybe I shouldn't put anything past you guys anymore haha / sweatdrop /

I have no idea.

Nope nope. Hahahahaha. You guys xD

Uh huh... xD

On that note, I'm going to verbally pout until this woman I made dinner for gets her ass on the train home ...

Awww. That's sweet !! Can I have a taste of whatever you made for dinner ?? Pleaaase ?? XD

Fresh made gnocchi with basil pesto and roasted beef tenderloin. Leftover pesto and tenderloin for sandwiches tomorrow xD If she doesn't get her ass here soon you can have whatever the fuck you want lol -_-

im going to stare at u until u let me taste ur cooking woman. 8) pretty please

Same goes for you haha

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Is anyone on this thread actually going out with each other now lol (Other than Sulin)? I'm highly skeptical of online dating but maybe I shouldn't put anything past you guys anymore haha / sweatdrop /

I have no idea.

Nope nope. Hahahahaha. You guys xD

Uh huh... xD

Oooookay then. Mixed signals lol.

On that note, I'm going to verbally pout until this woman I made dinner for gets her ass on the train home ...

Is anyone on this thread actually going out with each other now lol (Other than Sulin)? I'm highly skeptical of online dating but maybe I shouldn't put anything past you guys anymore haha / sweatdrop /