while Seju need to stop self-pitying and over relying to Sumin for comfort
Tbh, Seju is quite a strong person. Because we often see her being miserable over Sumin when she was with her so we kinda forget how she has been dealing with everything all alone for 34 years without falling into depression. She stood strong as a young kid who was bullied by her brothers before she met Sumin. She kept living her life, held her head high after the break up. She might isolate herself from social world after the break up, however, she didnt waste her life like Sumin did and decided to wait for her no matter how long it would take. This took a lot of courage and determination. She made a choice and sticked with it, not many of us could do like what she has done for 10 years. No matter how much it hurts, how much it pained her, it cant change her mind or her decision. She sticks with it till the end.
Since the author shows us these sad and low scenes of her, we tend to see the negative side of it and overlook another side of this. A side where you could see a determined, strong Seju. A girl who knows what she wants and what she needs and sticks with her choice.
We saw her sad, we saw her hurt, we thought she should move on and stop being miserable and dependent but what is love without hurt, without pain? what is love without waiting and hoping? Because sometimes, after all the pain, the happiness we feel after will be unbearable. You have to feel the pain to know the value of happiness, all sort of thing, lollllll.
Self-pitying is not really the right word to describe her, tbh xD. She's more than that.
^ I couldn't have said this better. That's why I don't love Seju because I pity her as what most people are saying. I love her character because I truly respect her. :)
