Now, to be fair to Hanae, Tayanma is fucking terrifying in every way. She’s selfish, domineering, has no sense of boundaries, and comes across as a bit of a headcase. If I were in Hanae’s situation, I could almost guarantee you I wouldn’t be standing up to Tayama either because I’d be afraid of her pulling a knife on me if I tried.
Have we seen a knife on her yet? Has she actually threatened Hanae in any way? She's absolutely selfish and domineering, and I'd wager when she thinks of the definition of boundaries, she doesn't even put herself in the equation. Yet, I still think Hanae should try, she hasn't even tried.
Even though I ended up the way I did, when I was 15, my mom had a stalker through her work. I figured out immediately how he was as soon as I met him (cold, slimey smile, his eyes held serious malice, and his vocal inflections when he spoke to her sounded...off), and told her as such, and she laughed me off until a month later he had escalated things. She was so meek around him, and would just nervously laugh and try to reason it away, and then would tell her friends and coworkers that she was uncomfortable around him, but didn't face the guy directly until his wife got involved and divorced him, and he moved away. Her second stalker was our neighbor. At one point he put several random pieces of his guns in a box on our driveway with a note saying that she should keep them so he could come back later when he didn't feel like killing himself. I took that box and threw them all over his porch when he was out buying beer (how do I know it was beer? I watched him come back to it all from my window) and he never bothered her again after that.
The guy had several guns, I still did it. You have to face down this kind of behavior and make it clear it isn't tolerable. I'm not trying to sound hard, I just know that if someone pulled a knife on me after stalking me, I'd fight them with everything I had because anything less invites misunderstanding. My mom was meek in both cases, and it didn't stop until things got extreme.
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