Geez, all they're doing is wishing you good luck in a roundabout way. A "I hope you can make it so that you don't experience the feelings of sadness and frustration I ended up feeling because I couldn't make it" type of thing. It's nothing but good wishes directed at her, no one's telling her anything bad but she still finds a way to twist it so she can justify keep being miserable. What a pity-party.
Genuinely good wishes still carries a weight, no one wants to feel like they're letting others down.