Rules of nature dictate that there will be blood when standing here.
The ultimate showdown between two tiger moms is about to begin!
Tongtong's mom isn't really a tiger mom. Tiger parenting is about strictness. TongTong's mom is extremely laid back, but also super protective. She's more in "Mama Bear" territory?
Please just take the girl into your house and get her away from her homphobic and grade elitist mother. Worst case is that she just doesn't care, forgets about Xiao Lu and the two girls can go on with their life and love. Best case is that the mom realizes how shit of a parent she is and starts turning around to be a better mother
Though let's be real, is that REALLY gonna happen?
I definitely think "She doesn't care" is false. She's controlling and strict, but she's not apathetic. If Tongtong's mom took her in, Xiao Lu's mom would probably call the police? Best case scenario would be if Xiao Lu's mom straight up disowned her, then she probably wouldn't care if TT's mom took her in, but honestly, I don't see that happening.
I really just don't see her as not caring. She's got a lot of bad ideas about how to parent, but she's also working multiple jobs and taking care of her daughter and their house while her husband is just literally nothing but a wasteful drain on their finances who not only isn't supporting them, but also comes back periodically just to burn through the money in their bank account. She's a big ball of stress, depression, and burnout, and while that doesn't make what she's doing okay, it is probably part of what's exacerbating her negative qualities. The fact that she cares about her daughter doesn't mean that caring automatically manifests in a healthy supportive way.
I'm not sure which way this is going to go. Fact is, homophobic traditionalists often just can't be reasoned with. We haven't seen how far gone she is in this respect, but people get set in their ways under the best of circumstances, and these aren't those.
But TT's mom seems pretty disarming. And while I agree that she's super straight, she might have just the right perspective to be a positive influence?
Call me idealistic, but I actually have a good feeling about this. Despite her many issues, Xiao Lu’s mom does seem to truly care for her daughter. Even her homophobia seems to come more from a lack of understanding than from malice. Whether it’s a meeting of the moms or some other bit of advice, I’m hopeful that she’ll eventually come to see that’s she’s been too hard on Xiao Lu, and that this relationship (even if she doesn’t quite understand it) is truly the best thing for her.
That being said, Tiger Mom vs. Mama Bear would be entertaining to watch. It’s funny, though, I could see the mom’s becoming good friends. They’ve both had to deal with crappy significant others, and each of them seems to possess some qualities that the other one could use a little bit more of.